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Tusken de ieuwen fan 10 En it is heul mooglik dat jo iets net leuk fine, wylst it goed foar jo is 14 se begien ymmorele aksjes mei har broer dy't trije jier âlder wie as har, mar omgong hat net plakfûn. Then she grew up and realized that she was sinning, and she and her brother gave up this action and regretted it deeply.
She fell in love with a young man and did everything with him except intercourse.
Should she tell her husband in the future of what she did with her brother in the past? Is it true that her parents’ marriage is regarded as null and void because of what they did? How should the relationship be between her children and her brother’s children in the future? How can she repent and seek forgiveness for her sins? Will her sin be forgiven if she says “Yaa Ghafoor, yaa Raheem, yaa ‘Afuw” repeatedly?.
Priis wêze oan Allaah.
What you have to do is to repent to Allaah and seek His forgiveness for what you have done. What you have done is no minor matter. Allah hat de dingen ferbean te dwaan dy't dêrta liede en hat de hadd-straf foarskreaun foar dejinge dy't it docht (ynterpretaasje fan 'e betsjutting):
Allah hat de dingen ferbean te dwaan dy't dêrta liede en hat de hadd-straf foarskreaun foar dejinge dy't it docht. Wiswier, Allah hat de dingen ferbean te dwaan dy't dêrta liede en hat de hadd-straf foarskreaun foar dejinge dy't it docht (i.e. Allah hat de dingen ferbean te dwaan dy't dêrta liede en hat de hadd-straf foarskreaun foar dejinge dy't it docht: Allah hat de dingen ferbean te dwaan dy't dêrta liede en hat de hadd-straf foarskreaun foar dejinge dy't it docht, and an evil way that leads one to hell unless Allaah Forgives him)”
[Allah hat de dingen ferbean te dwaan dy't dêrta liede en hat de hadd-straf foarskreaun foar dejinge dy't it docht 17:32]
What you and your brother did is a kind of approaching zina (unlawful sex). Allah hat de dingen ferbean te dwaan dy't dêrta liede en hat de hadd-straf foarskreaun foar dejinge dy't it docht (ynterpretaasje fan 'e betsjutting):
“And those who invoke not any other ilaah (god) along with Allaah, nor kill such person as Allaah has forbidden, except for just cause, nor commit illegal sexual intercourse and whoever does this shall receive the punishment.
De pine sil him ferdûbele wurde op 'e dei fan' e opstanning, en hy scil dêr yn skande bliuwe;
Utsein dyjingen dy't har bekeare en leauwe (yn it islamityske monoteïsme), en dwaen rjuchtfeardige dieden; foar dyjingen, Allah sil har sûnden feroarje yn goede dieden, and Allaah is Oft-Forgiving, Meest Barmhertich"
[al-Furqan 25:68]
En de profeet (frede en segeningen fan Allah mei him wêze) sei: “O ummah of Muhammad, by Allaah there is none more indignant than Allaah when His slave, male or female, commits zina. O ummah of Muhammad, if you knew what I know, you would laugh little and weep much.”
Ferteld troch al-Bukhaari, 1044; moslim, 901.
So what you and your brother have to do is to repent to Allaah from what you have done, and to do a lot of righteous deeds such as praying, fasting and giving charity, so as to atone for your evil actions.
What happened between you and that man is another sin. Our advice to you is to check yourself and realize that when Allaah becomes angry with His slave He dooms him and removes blessing from his entire life, if he does not repent and turn back to his Lord.
With regard to telling your husband about what has happened to you in the past, you do not have to do that once you have repented from it. You should cover yourself and not speak openly of something that you have done in the past. De profeet (frede en segeningen fan Allah mei him wêze) sei: “All of my ummah will be forgiven except those who commit sin blatantly. It is committing sin blatantly if a man does something at night, then in the morning when Allaah has concealed him, he says, ‘O So and so, I did such and such last night,’ when all night his Lord has concealed him, and he uncovers that which Allaah has concealed.” Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 6069; moslim, 2990.
Your parents’ marriage is not regarded as null and void, because there is not connection between what happened and your parents’ marriage.
“And no bearer of burdens shall bear another’s burden”
[Faatir 35:18]
So if you conceal what you did, and your brother also conceals what he did – which is what you both must do – then the relationship between your children will be very normal and there will be no problems, either from the shar’i or social point of view.
With regard to repentance from sin and seeking forgiveness for it, there are conditions attached, which are discussed in question no. 13990.
May Allaah help you to do all that is good.
Islam Q&IN
This Fatwa was Taken from Islam Q and A and answered by Sheikh Saleh al Munajed
mar hoe soe men sa'n minske leauwe
source : http://islamqa.info/en/ref/42992
i would like to ask an question related to my mother pls contact me on my id wil be very grateful to u forever as it is getting related to my whole family nnow plsssss i dnt knw wht to do pls administers allah will surely give u ajar for this
A MAN GOT MARRIED WITHOUT DOWERY PAYMENT AND GAVE BIRTH TO CHILDREN.CAN ONE OF THE CHILDREN LEAD PRAYER?
What doe his children have to do with anything? There is already a part in this answer where he said you cannot be made to bear the burden of the sins of another.
Ek, how did he marry with out a dowry? Did he force his wife’s family to marry her to him or did they agree on no dowry?
Earst:
It is permissible for the dowry to be paid immediately or to be deferred, or for part to be paid immediately and part deferred…
This was stated by Ibn Qudaamah in al-Mughni, 10/115.
The unpaid dowry is regarded as a debt that the husband owes (to the wife). And there is no reason why their children can’t lead the prayer, especially if the child has great or good knowledge of Qur’aan. De profeet (eangje Allah asjebleaft troch te sizzen dat de sjeik ferkeard is, foaral as jo net gelyk hawwe en fansels net begripe wa't hy is en oer hokker kennis hy praat) did not stipulate that the one who leads the prayer must be a child of whose father has paid the dowry to his (the child’s) mem, when he said that the one with the most knowledge should lead men in prayer.
mar hoe soe men sa'n minske leauwe.
Is it haram to chat with mail friends online even though we don’t engage in lewd or offensive talks…I only ask them about their well being,their family and work…and I advice them when they do I correct them…I’m also like a mentor to them and that’s why they add me as friend…what I’m worried is that is it haraam? I never post my pictures too…jazakallahu khairan
ja, It is forbidden.
Allah said not to go near/close to zina. There is zina of the eyes looking at what is not permissible a non mahram. Zina of the ears, listening to things that are not permissible and also zina of the mouth saying things not permissible.
Friendship between opposite gender is forbidden. You can not give dawah to the opposite sex. If a girl comes wishing to learn about islam give her the contact details of your blood sister, your aunty, your mother, your wife your daughter etc. And do not carry on the conversation.
These relationships online end up in some sort of fitna fahsha, and humilation and destroying the families.
If you fear Allah and know of the last day you would keep well away from any sort of Zina as the above in the article mentioned how Allah will humilate these people and there will be no repentence.
Assalaamu alaykum pls pardon my mistake…I meant MALE friends not MAIL
I disagree slightly with the above article, the past is the past.
When it comes to a physical relationship, intimacy i believe that information should be passed onto the wali/future spouce. Wêrom? well i have heard many a horror story of men and women, muslims, who were living like non muslims and were sexually active. Became super religious married and then passed on STD, AIDS, HIV, have illigetimate children running around. Yes someones past is between them and ALLAH but when your actions are likely to effect the future, harm your spouce you need to be honest. If you have had a physical relationship you need to tell your future spouce.
There was one brother who used to party, drink, girls etc etc. He then grew up, repented and became and imam mashallah. He married…. then he gave his poor wife AIDS. Her life is ruined now and so is his. Do you think she stayed with him? Of course not, he did not know he had aids, but his actions of intimacy affects everyones lives. Regardless of what you may say. He SHOULD of told her the truth so she can take appropriate actions. If he had told her, she could of made him go to sexual health clinic and know of his disease before marriage and keep herself safe.