Auren 'Yan Uwa Ko Wanda Ba 'Yan Uwa Ba?

Daya daga cikin dangina ya zo min da nufin aure amma na ji aurar da ba ‘yan uwa ba an fi so don makomar ‘ya’ya da sauran dalilai.. Menene ra'ayinku akan wannan batu?

Amsa: Malamai da dama sun bayyana ka'idar. Yana nuna gaskiyar cewa kwayoyin halitta da gado suna da tasiri. Babu shakka cewa kwayoyin halitta suna da tasiri a jikin mutum da kuma tunanin mutum.

Wannan ya zo a hadisi inda wani mutum ya zo wurin Manzon Allah (sallallahu alaihi wasallam) sannan yace, “Matata ta haifi ɗa baƙar fata.” (Ya kasance yana adawa da wannan yaron yayin da duk masu hawansa masu launin fata ne).

Manzon Allah (sallallahu alaihi wasallam) gaya masa, “Kun mallaki rakuma??” Yace, “Ee.” Annabi (sallallahu alaihi wasallam) yace, “Wane launi ne?” Yace, “Ja.” Annabi (sallallahu alaihi wasallam) Ya tambaye shi, “Shin a cikinsu akwai wanda ya magriba ?” Yace, “Ee.” Annabi (sallallahu alaihi wasallam) sannan yace , “Ta yaya hakan ya faru?” Mutumin ya amsa , “Watakila ya faru ne saboda nau'in da ya koma.” Don haka Annabi (sallallahu alaihi wasallam) gaya masa, “Watakila wannan dan naku ya kasance saboda nau'in abin da aka mayar da shi zuwa gare shi.” [1]

Wannan shaida ce cewa kwayoyin halitta suna da tasiri kuma babu shakka game da shi. Duk da haka, Annabi (sallallahu alaihi wasallam) kuma yace,

“Ana auren mace [kowane daga] dalilai hudu: don dukiyarta, domin zuriyarta, don kyawunta ko don addininta. Don haka kiyi kokari ki auri mai addini, bari a shafe hannuwanku da ƙura.” [2]

Saboda haka, Abu mafi muhimmanci wajen neman mata shine takawa. Da yawan addini da kyawunta to ta fi kyau, ko da kuwa danginta ne ko na nesa [ba -] dangi.

Matan addini za su kare dukiyar namiji, yara, da gida. Kyakykyawa na biya masa bukatunsa ya runtse ido ba zai kalli wani ba. Kuma Allah ne Mafi sani.

[1] Bukhari da Muslim ne suka ruwaito.

[2] Bukhari da Muslim ne suka ruwaito.

Sheikh Muhammad bin Saalih al-Usaimin

Fatawa ta Musulunci Game da Mata – Darussalam Shafi na 187-188.