Pehea e hauʻoli ai kāu wahine

Pehea e hauʻoli ai kāu wahine ?

Eia ka hōʻuluʻulu manaʻo o ka puke “Pehea e hauʻoli ai kāu wahine e Sheikh Mohammed Abdelhaleem Hamed.
Nani Hookipa
Ma hope o ka hoʻi ʻana mai ka hana, kula, huakaʻi, a i ʻole ka mea i hoʻokaʻawale iā ʻoe:
• E hoʻomaka me ke aloha maikaʻi.
• E hoʻomaka me Assalamau ‘Aliaykum a me ka minoʻaka. ʻO Salam he sunnah a he duʻaa no ia.
• Lulu lima a waiho i na lono ino no ka hope!
ʻŌlelo ʻoluʻolu a me nā kono hoʻohiwahiwa
• E koho i nā huaʻōlelo maikaʻi a pale i nā huaʻōlelo maikaʻi ʻole.
• Hāʻawi iā ia i kou manaʻo ke kamaʻilio ʻoe no kāna ʻōlelo.
• E kamaʻilio me ka akaka a e haʻi hou i nā huaʻōlelo inā pono a maopopo iā ia.
• Kāhea iā ia me nā inoa maikaʻi āna i makemake ai, e.g. kuu puuwai aloha, meli, saliha, etc.
Hoalohaloha a me ka lealea
• E hoʻolilo manawa e kamaʻilio pū.
• Hoolaha aku i kana nuhou waiwai.
• E hoʻomanaʻo pū i kāu mau hoʻomanaʻo maikaʻi.
Nā pāʻani a me nā mea hoʻonāwaliwali
• Hoʻohenehene & me ka hoʻomāʻewaʻewa.
• Pāʻani a hoʻokūkū pū kekahi i kekahi ma nā haʻuki a i ʻole.
• ʻAe ʻia ka lawe ʻana iā ia e nānā (halal) ʻano leʻaleʻa.
• Kāpae ʻia (harama) nā mea i kāu mau koho leʻaleʻa.
Kokua ma ka Hale
• Ke hana i ka mea hiki iā ʻoe ke makemake/makemake e hana i mea kōkua, ʻoi aku ka maʻi a luhi paha.
• 'O ka mea nui, 'o ia ka ho'omaopopo 'ana i kona mahalo i kāna hana nui.
Kūkākūkā (Sura)
• Ma na mea pili ohana.
• Hāʻawi iā ia i ka manaʻo he mea nui ia iā ʻoe.
• E aʻo pono i kona manaʻo.
• E ʻoluʻolu e hoʻololi i kona manaʻo inā ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi.
• Mahalo iā ia no ke kōkua ʻana iā ia me kona mau manaʻo.
Kipa i kekahi
• Ke koho ʻana i ka poʻe i hānai maikaʻi ʻia e kūkulu i ka pilina me. He uku nui ke kipa ana i na hoahanau a me ka poe haipule. (ʻAʻole i ka hoʻopau manawa i ke kipa ʻana!)
• E hoʻolohe i ka mālama ʻana i nā ʻano Islam i ka wā o nā kipa.
• ʻAʻole koi iā ia e kipa i ka mea ʻoluʻolu ʻole iā ia.
Hana i ka wā huakaʻi
• Hāʻawi i kahi aloha aloha a me nā ʻōlelo aʻo maikaʻi.
• E noi iā ia e pule nona.
• E noi aku i na hoahanau haipule a me na hoaloha e malama i ka ohana i kou hele ana.
• Hāʻawi iā ia i kālā kūpono no kāna mea e pono ai.
• E ho'āʻo e launa pū me ia ma ke kelepona paha, leka uila, palapala, etc..
• E hoʻi koke mai.
• E lawe mai iaia i makana!
• Hōʻalo i ka hoʻi ʻana i ka manawa i manaʻo ʻole ʻia a i ka pō.
• E lawe pū me ʻoe inā hiki.
Kākoʻo kālā
• Pono ke kāne e lokomaikaʻi i loko o kona hiki kālā. ʻAʻole pono ʻo ia e hana ʻino i kāna kālā (ʻaʻole hoʻi hoʻomāunauna).
• Loaʻa iā ia ka uku no nā mea a pau āna i hoʻolilo ai i kāna meaʻai no kahi ʻāpana berena liʻiliʻi āna i hānai ai iā ia ma kona lima. (he huakai).
• Ua paipai ikaika ia e haawi aku iaia mamua o kona noi ana iaia.
Aala maikai a me ka nani o ke kino
• Ma muli o ka Sunnah i ka wehe ʻana i ka lauoho mai ka ʻāʻī a me ka underarms.
• Maʻemaʻe a maʻemaʻe mau.
• E kau i ka mea ala nona.
Hoopalau
• He mea pono ke hana maa mau ina aole ou kumu (ka mai, etc.)
• E hoomaka me “WL” a me ka duʻa ʻoiaʻiʻo.
• E komo i loko ona ma kahi kūpono wale nō (ʻaʻole ka anus).
• E hoʻomaka me ka foreplay me nā ʻōlelo aloha.
• E hoʻomau a hoʻokō ʻoe i kona makemake.
• Hoʻomaha a hoʻohenehene ma hope.
• E pale aku i ka moe kolohe i ka mahina no ka mea, he haram
• E hana i ka mea hiki iā ʻoe ke pale i ka hōʻino ʻana i kona pae o Hiyaa (ka hilahila a me ke akahai) e like me ka lawe pū ʻana i kou ʻaʻahu ma mua o ka noi ʻana iā ia e hana mua iā ia e nānā ana.
• Hōʻalo i nā kūlana i ka wā e moe ai e pōʻino ai ʻo ia e like me ke kaomi ʻana i kona umauma a me ke ālai ʻana i kona hanu, ʻoi aku inā kaumaha ʻoe.
• E koho i nā manawa kūpono no ka moekolohe a e no'ono'o i ka ma'i a luhi paha i kekahi manawa.
Kiaʻi Pilikino
Hōʻalo i ka hōʻike ʻana i nā ʻike pilikino e like me nā mea huna o ka lumi moe, kona mau pilikia pilikino a me nā mea pilikino ʻē aʻe.
Kōkua i ka hoʻolohe ʻana iā Allah
• E hoala iaia i ka hapakolu hope o ka po e pule “Qiyam-ul-Layl” (pule hou i ka po me ka sujood lōʻihi a me ka rukuʻua).
• E aʻo iā ia i kāu ʻike no ka Qur'an a me kāna tafseer.
• Aʻo iā ia “Dhikr” (nā ala e hoʻomanaʻo ai iā Allah ma ke ʻano o ke kāula) i ke kakahiaka a me ke ahiahi.
• E paipai iā ia e hoʻolilo i ke kālā no ke Akua e like me ke kūʻai aloha.
• E lawe iā ia i Hajj a me Umrah ke hiki iā ʻoe ke hana pēlā.
Hōʻike i ka mahalo i kona ʻohana a me nā hoaloha
• E lawe aku iā ia e kipa i kona ʻohana a me kona ʻohana, ʻoi aku kona mau mākua.
• E kono iā lākou e kipa iā ia a hoʻokipa iā lākou.
• Hāʻawi iā lākou i nā makana i nā manawa kūikawā.
• Kōkua iā lākou inā pono me ke kālā, hooikaika, etc..
• E mālama i ka pilina maikaʻi me kona ʻohana ma hope o kona make ʻana inā make mua ʻo ia. Eia kekahi, ua paipai ʻia ke kāne e hahai i ka sunnah a e hāʻawi mau i kāna mea i hāʻawi mua ai i kona ola i kona mau hoaaloha a me kona ʻohana..
(Islama) Hoʻomaʻamaʻa & ʻŌlelo aʻo
Aia kēia:
• Nā kumu o Islam
• kana mau kuleana a me kona pono
• Heluhelu a kakau
• E paipai ana iā ia e hele i nā haʻawina a me nā halaqah
• Nā rula Islam (hooponopono) pili i na wahine
• Ke kūʻai ʻana i nā puke Islam a me nā lipine no ka hale waihona puke
lili mahalo
• E hōʻoia e ʻaʻahu ana ʻo ia i ka hijab kūpono ma mua o kona haʻalele ʻana i ka hale.
• Kāohi i ka hui ʻana me nā kāne non-mahram.
• E pale ana i ka lili nui.
ʻO nā laʻana o kēia:
1- Ke kālailai ʻana i kēlā me kēia huaʻōlelo a me nā ʻōlelo āna e ʻōlelo ai a me ka hoʻonui ʻana i kāna ʻōlelo ma nā manaʻo ʻaʻole ia i manaʻo
2- Kāohi iā ia mai ka hele ʻana i waho o ka hale inā pololei nā kumu.
3- Kāohi iā ia mai ka pane ʻana i ke kelepona.
Hoomanawanui a akahai
• Manaʻo ʻia nā pilikia i kēlā me kēia male ʻana no laila he mea maʻamau kēia. ʻO ka hewa ka pane nui a me ka hoʻonui ʻana i nā pilikia a hiki i ka male ʻana.
• E hōʻike ʻia ka huhū ke ʻoi aku ʻo ia ma mua o nā palena o Allah SWT, ma ka hoopanee ana i ka pule, hoʻopunipuni, ke nānā ʻana i nā hiʻohiʻona kapu ma ka TV, etc..
• E kala mai i kāna mau hewa iā ʻoe.
Hoʻoponopono i kāna mau hewa
• Ka mua, ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo paʻa a maopopo i kekahi mau manawa.
• A laila ma ka huli ʻana i hope iā ia ma kahi moe (e hōʻike ana i kou mau manaʻo). E hoʻomanaʻo ʻaʻole e komo kēia i ka waiho ʻana i ka lumi moe i kahi lumi ʻē aʻe, ka haʻalele ʻana i ka hale i kahi ʻē, a i ʻole kamaʻilio pū me ia.
• ʻO ka hopena hope loa e paʻi māmā (ke ʻae ʻia) iā ia. Ma keia hihia, e noonoo ke kane i keia:
Pono ʻo ia e ʻike ʻo ka sunnah ka pale ʻana i ka hahau ʻana no ka mea ʻaʻole i hahau ʻo ke kāula i ka wahine a i ke kauā.
Pono ia e hana i nā hihia koʻikoʻi o ka hoʻolohe ʻole, e.g. hōʻole pinepine i ka moekolohe me ke kumu ʻole, pule mau i ka manawa, ka haʻalele ʻana i ka hale no ka manawa lōʻihi me ka ʻae ʻole a hōʻole ʻole e haʻi iā ia i kona wahi i hele ai, etc..
ʻAʻole pono e hana ʻia ke ʻole ma hope o kona huli ʻana mai kona wahi moe a kūkākūkā pū me ia e like me ka mea i ʻōlelo ʻia ma ka Qurʻan .
ʻAʻole pono ʻo ia e paʻi ikaika iā ia me ka ʻeha, a i ʻole e paʻi iā ia ma kona mau maka a i ʻole ma nā wahi paʻakikī o kona kino.
Pono ʻo ia e pale i ka hoʻohilahila ʻana iā ia e like me ke kuʻi ʻana iā ia me kahi kāmaʻa, etc.
kala kala a me ka hoʻopaʻi kūpono
• E helu ana iā ia no nā hewa nui aʻe.
• E kala aku i na hewa i hanaia iaia aka e helu ia ia no na hewa i hanaia ma ka pono o ke Akua, e.g. hoopanee i ka pule, etc..
• E hoʻomanaʻo i nā mea maikaʻi a pau āna i hana ai ke hana hewa ʻo ia.
• E hoʻomanaʻo i ka hewa o nā kānaka a pau, no laila e hoʻāʻo e ʻimi i nā kumu e like me ka luhi, kaumaha, ka loaʻa ʻana o kāna pōʻai mahina a i ʻole e ulu ana kāna kūpaʻa i ka Islam.
• E pale aku i ka hoouka ana iaia no ka hana ino ana i ka ai no ka mea, aole loa i hoohewahewa ka Makaula PBUH i kekahi o kana mau wahine no keia.. Inā makemake ʻo ia i ka meaʻai, ʻai ʻo ia a inā ʻaʻole ʻo ia a laila ʻaʻole ʻo ia e ʻai a ʻaʻole ʻōlelo.
• Ma mua o kona haʻi hewa ʻana, e ho'āʻo i nā ala ʻē aʻe i ʻoi aku ka maʻalahi ma mua o nā hoʻopiʻi pololei
• Pakele mai ka hoʻohana ʻana i nā ʻōlelo hōʻino a me nā ʻōlelo e hōʻeha i kona manaʻo.
• I ka wā e pono ai ke kūkākūkā i kahi pilikia e kali a loaʻa iā ʻoe kahi pilikino mai nā poʻe ʻē aʻe.
• ʻO ke kali ʻana a emi iki ka huhū hiki ke kōkua i ka mālama ʻana i kāu mau ʻōlelo.
ʻO ka hope loa, e ʻoluʻolu e hana Duʻa no ka mea kākau; Sheikh Mohammad Abdelhaleem Hamed, no ke kaikaina unuhi ʻo Abu Talhah a no ka mea loiloi ʻo Br. Adamu Qurashi. E hoʻomanaʻo ʻaʻole kēia he unuhi kūpono no laila e kala mai i kā mākou mau hewa a hoʻoponopono i kā mākou mau hewa. Na Haumana Mahometa’ Hui Hui o Alberta Edmonton, Kanada Feberuari, 1999.

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