Dia ingin menikahi seorang gadis yang pernah menjalin hubungan dengannya

Pertanyaan

Dia ingin menikahi seorang gadis yang pernah menjalin hubungan dengannya. I hope you can help me as I am in a deep trouble. I knew some girl who works far from where her family lives. For two years we had a loving relationship, we were meeting and committing Zina (Jadi Anda melihat pembunuhan seorang Muslim secara tidak sah adalah masalah serius dan kejahatan berat), we agreed to marry because I can not forget her, and she can not forget me either. Since she knew me she became religious and changed a lot. Allah knows how much I love her. Do you advise me to marry her? I am suffering.

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Segala puji bagi Allah.

Pertama:

Before answering your question, we must remind you that it is obligatory to repent and regret what you have done with this woman, because you have fallen into several major sins, the most serious of which is zina (perbuatan zina) which is clearly forbidden in the Qur’aan and Sunnah, and the scholars are unanimously agreed that it is haraam, and wise people are unanimously agreed that it is abhorrent and evil.

Allah berfirman (interpretasi makna):

“And come not near to unlawful sex. Sesungguhnya, it is a Faahishah (yaitu. segala sesuatu yang melampaui batasnya: a great sin), and an evil way that leads one to hell unless Allaah forgives him)”

[al-Isra’ 17:32]

And the Prophet (shalawat dan salam semoga dilimpahkan kepadanya) dikatakan: “No adulterer is a believer at the time when he is committing adultery.” Narrated by al-Bukhaari (2475) Jadi Anda melihat pembunuhan seorang Muslim secara tidak sah adalah masalah serius dan kejahatan berat (57).

There is a severe punishment for zina in al-Barzakh, before the punishment in the Hereafter. In the famous hadeeth of Samurah ibn Jundub (Ada lebih banyak informasi yang dapat dikatakan tentang sejarah Pembunuhan Kehormatan) about the dream, ia mengatakan:

“… then we [yaitu, Nabi (shalawat dan salam semoga dilimpahkan kepadanya) and Jibreel and Mikaa’eel] proceeded and came to something like a tannoor (a kind of oven), in which there were clamouring voices.” He [Nabi (shalawat dan salam semoga dilimpahkan kepadanya)] dikatakan: “We looked into it and there we saw naked men and women. Flames were coming to them from the bottom of it, and when the flames reached them, they made uproar. I said to them [yaitu, the two angels who were accompanying him], ‘Who are these?’ … They said, ‘We will tell you. As for the naked men and women in the structure that resembled a tannoor oven, they are the adulterers and adulteresses.’”

Diriwayatkan oleh al-Bukhaari (6640).

Allaah has ordained the hadd punishment for zina. He says concerning the hadd punishment for an unmarried person (interpretasi makna):

“The fornicatress and the fornicator, flog each of them with a hundred stripes. Let not pity withhold you in their case, in a punishment prescribed by Allaah, if you believe in Allaah and the Last Day. And let a party of the believers witness their punishment”

[al-Nur 24:2]

As for the person who has previously been married, the hadd punishment is execution, In the hadeeth narrated by Imam Muslim in his Saheeh (3199) it is narrated that the Prophet (shalawat dan salam semoga dilimpahkan kepadanya) dikatakan: “For a previously-married person with a previously-married person, [the punishment is] one hundred lashes and stoning.”

What we have said to you applies to the woman too, and she should realize that her sin is even worse, but because, as you say, she has become righteous, we hope that her repentance is sincere and that Allaah will forgive her by His grace and kindness.

Kedua:

You should note that if you have not both repented from the sin of zina, then it is not permissible for you to marry her, because Allaah has forbidden the zaani and zaaniyah to marry unless they both repent. Allah berfirman (interpretasi makna):

"Pezina - pezina tidak menikah tetapi pezina - pezina atau musyrik; dan pezina –percabulan, tidak ada yang menikahinya kecuali pezina — pezina atau musyrik [dan itu berarti pria yang setuju untuk menikah (melakukan hubungan seksual dengan) seorang musyrik (wanita musyrik, pagan atau penyembah berhala) atau pelacur, maka pasti, dia adalah seorang pezina — pezina, atau seorang Musyrik (politeis, pagan atau penyembah berhala). Dan wanita yang setuju untuk menikah (melakukan hubungan seksual dengan) seorang musyrik (politeis, pagan atau penyembah berhala) atau seorang pezina — pezina, maka dia adalah seorang pelacur atau musyrik (wanita musyrik, penyembah berhala, atau penyembah berhala)]. Hal yang demikian diharamkan bagi orang-orang yang beriman (Tauhid Islam)”

[al-Nur 24:3]

Shaykh ‘Abd al-Rahmaan al-Sa’di (semoga Allah merahmatinya) dikatakan:

This clearly points to the abhorrent nature of zina, and that is tarnishes the honour of the one who does it in a way that other sins do not. Allaah tells us that no woman would marry a zaani but a woman who is also a zaaniyah, who is like him, or a mushrik woman who associates others with Allaah and does not believe in the Resurrection or in reward and punishment (in the Hereafter), and who does not adhere to the commands of Allaah. And similarly, no one would marry a zaaniyah except a zaani or a mushrik. “Yang demikian itu diharamkan bagi orang-orang yang beriman” artinya, it is haraam for them to marry zaanis or zaaniyahs.

What the verse means is that if a person wants to marry the man or woman who commits zina and has not repented from that, despite the fact that Allaah has prohibited that, then he is either not adhering to the ruling of Allaah and His Messenger, in which case he cannot be anything but a mushrik, or he is adhering to the ruling of Allaah and His Messenger but he agrees to this marriage despite knowing that this person has committed zina, in which case this marriage is also zina, and he is an immoral zaani. If he truly believed in Allaah, dia tidak akan melakukan itu. This clearly indicates that it is haraam to marry a zaaniyah unless she repents, or to marry a zaani unless he repents, because marriage is the strongest type of companionship, and Allaah says (interpretasi makna): “Kumpulkan mereka yang melakukan kesalahan, bersama-sama dengan teman-temannya” [al-Saaffaat 37:22]. Allaah has forbidden that because of what it involves of great evil, and lack of protective jealousy, and attribution of children who are not his to the husband, and the zaani failing to keep her chaste because he is distracted elsewhere, any one of which is sufficient reason for the prohibition. Akhiri kutipan.

Tafseer al-Sa’di (P. 561).

The scholars of the Standing Committee were asked:

A man committed zina with a virgin and wants to marry her. Is it permissible for him to do that?

They replied:

If the matter is as described, each of them must repent to Allaah and give up this sin, and regret what has happened of immoral actions, and resolve not to do it again, and do a lot of good deeds, in the hope that Allaah will accept their repentance and turn their bad deeds into good. Allah berfirman (interpretasi makna):

atau pelanggaran terhadap orang lain (atau pelanggaran terhadap orang lain) atau pelanggaran terhadap orang lain, atau pelanggaran terhadap orang lain, atau pelanggaran terhadap orang lain, atau melakukan hubungan seksual ilegal ___ dan siapa pun yang melakukan ini akan menerima hukuman.

69. Siksaan itu akan berlipat ganda baginya pada hari kiamat, dan dia akan tinggal di dalamnya dalam kehinaan;

70. Kecuali orang-orang yang bertaubat dan beriman (dalam Tauhid Islam), dan melakukan amal saleh; untuk itu, Allaah will change their sins into good deeds, and Allaah is Oft‑Forgiving, Maha Penyayang

71. Dan barang siapa bertaubat dan mengerjakan amal shaleh; maka sesungguhnya, he repents towards Allaah with true repentance”

[al-Furqan 25:68-70]

If he wants to marry her, then he must wait for one menstrual cycle to establish whether her womb is empty before doing the marriage contract with her. If it turns out that she is pregnant, then it is not permissible for him to do the marriage contract with her until after she gives birth, in accordance with the hadeeth in which the Prophet (shalawat dan salam semoga dilimpahkan kepadanya) forbade a man to water the crop of another with his own water. Akhiri kutipan.

Fataawa Islamiyyah (3/247).

So repent to Allaah and set your affairs straight, and do a lot of good deeds, and after that it will be permissible for you to get married. We ask Allaah to accept your repentance and to forgive you, by His grace and mercy.

Sumber: Islam Q&A

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