He wants to marry a girl with whom he had a relationship

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He wants to marry a girl with whom he had a relationship. I hope you can help me as I am in a deep trouble. I knew some girl who works far from where her family lives. For two years we had a loving relationship, we were meeting and committing Zina (ịkwa iko), we agreed to marry because I can not forget her, and she can not forget me either. Since she knew me she became religious and changed a lot. Allah knows how much I love her. Do you advise me to marry her? I am suffering.

Zaa

Otuto diri Allaah.

Mbụ:

Before answering your question, we must remind you that it is obligatory to repent and regret what you have done with this woman, because you have fallen into several major sins, the most serious of which is zina (ịkwa iko) which is clearly forbidden in the Qur’aan and Sunnah, and the scholars are unanimously agreed that it is haraam, and wise people are unanimously agreed that it is abhorrent and evil.

Allaah kwuru (nkọwa nke ihe ọ pụtara):

“And come not near to unlawful sex. N'ezie, it is a Faahishah (ya bụ. anything that transgresses its limits: a great sin), and an evil way that leads one to hell unless Allaah forgives him)”

[al-Isra’ 17:32]

Na onye amụma (udo na ngozi diri ya) kwuru: “No adulterer is a believer at the time when he is committing adultery.” Narrated by al-Bukhaari (2475) and Muslim (57).

There is a severe punishment for zina in al-Barzakh, before the punishment in the Hereafter. In the famous hadeeth of Samurah ibn Jundub (ka Allaah gọzie ya) about the dream, it says:

“… then we [ya bụ., Onye-amuma (udo na ngozi diri ya) and Jibreel and Mikaa’eel] proceeded and came to something like a tannoor (a kind of oven), in which there were clamouring voices.” He [Onye-amuma (udo na ngozi diri ya)] kwuru: “We looked into it and there we saw naked men and women. Flames were coming to them from the bottom of it, and when the flames reached them, they made uproar. I said to them [ya bụ., the two angels who were accompanying him], ‘Who are these?’ … They said, ‘We will tell you. As for the naked men and women in the structure that resembled a tannoor oven, they are the adulterers and adulteresses.’”

Al-Bukhaari kwuru ya (6640).

Allaah has ordained the hadd punishment for zina. He says concerning the hadd punishment for an unmarried person (nkọwa nke ihe ọ pụtara):

“The fornicatress and the fornicator, flog each of them with a hundred stripes. Let not pity withhold you in their case, in a punishment prescribed by Allaah, if you believe in Allaah and the Last Day. And let a party of the believers witness their punishment”

[al-Noor 24:2]

As for the person who has previously been married, the hadd punishment is execution, In the hadeeth narrated by Imam Muslim in his Saheeh (3199) it is narrated that the Prophet (udo na ngozi diri ya) kwuru: “For a previously-married person with a previously-married person, [the punishment is] one hundred lashes and stoning.”

What we have said to you applies to the woman too, and she should realize that her sin is even worse, but because, as you say, she has become righteous, we hope that her repentance is sincere and that Allaah will forgive her by His grace and kindness.

Nke abuo:

You should note that if you have not both repented from the sin of zina, then it is not permissible for you to marry her, n'ihi na Allaah amachibidoro ndị zaani na zaaniyah ịlụ di ma ọ bụrụ na ha abụọ chegharịrị. Allaah kwuru (nkọwa nke ihe ọ pụtara):

"Onye na-akwa iko - onye na-akwa iko alụghị di ma ọ bụghị nwanyị na-akwa iko - nwanyị na-akwa iko ma ọ bụ Mushrikah.; na nwanyi nākwa iko - nwanyi nākwa iko, Ọ dịghị onye lụrụ ya ma e wezụga onye na-akwa iko - onye na-akwa iko ma ọ bụ onye Mushrik [nke ahụ pụtakwara na nwoke ahụ kwere ịlụ (nwee mmekọ nwoke na nwanyị) a Mushrika (nwanyi ime mmụọ, ọgọ mmụọ ma ọ bụ nwanyị na-ekpere arụsị) ma ọ bụ nwanyị akwụna, mgbe ahụ n'ezie, ọ bu ma-ọbu onye nākwa iko - onye nākwa iko, ma ọ bụ Mushrik (onye ofufe Chineke, ọgọ mmụọ ma ọ bụ onye na-ekpere arụsị). Na nwaanyị nke kwetara ịlụ (nwee mmekọ nwoke na nwanyị) onye Mushrik (onye ofufe Chineke, ọgọ mmụọ ma ọ bụ onye na-ekpere arụsị) ma-ọbu onye nākwa iko - onye nākwa iko, mgbe ahụ ọ bụ nwanyị akwụna ma ọ bụ Mushrikah (nwanyi ime mmụọ, ọgọ mmụọ, ma ọ bụ nwanyị na-ekpere arụsị)]. Ihe dị otú ahụ bụ ihe amachibidoro ndị kwere ekwe (nke Islam Monotheism)”

[al-Noor 24:3]

Shaykh 'Abd al-Rahman al-Sa'di (ka Allaah meere ya ebere) kwuru:

This clearly points to the abhorrent nature of zina, and that is tarnishes the honour of the one who does it in a way that other sins do not. Allaah tells us that no woman would marry a zaani but a woman who is also a zaaniyah, who is like him, or a mushrik woman who associates others with Allaah and does not believe in the Resurrection or in reward and punishment (in the Hereafter), and who does not adhere to the commands of Allaah. And similarly, no one would marry a zaaniyah except a zaani or a mushrik. “Such a thing is forbidden to the believers” means, it is haraam for them to marry zaanis or zaaniyahs.

What the verse means is that if a person wants to marry the man or woman who commits zina and has not repented from that, n'agbanyeghị na Allaah amachibidoro nke ahụ, mgbe ahụ ọ naghị agbaso iwu Allaah na onye ozi ya, na nke a na ọ gaghị abụ ihe ọ bụla ma ọ bụghị onye mushrik, ma ọ bụ ọ na-agbaso iwu Allaah na onye ozi ya mana ọ kwenyere n'alụmdi na nwunye a n'agbanyeghị na ọ ma na onye a emeela zina, na nke a alụmdi na nwunye bụkwa zina, na ọ bụ zaani rụrụ arụ. Ọ bụrụ na o kwere n'ezie na Allaah, ọ gaghị eme nke ahụ. Nke a na-egosi nke ọma na ọ bụ haram ịlụ zaaniyah ma ọ bụrụ na o chegharịrị, ma-ọbụ ịlụ zaani ma ọ bụrụ na o chegharịrị, n'ihi na alụmdi na nwunye bụ ụdị enyi kacha sie ike, na Allaah kwuru (nkọwa nke ihe ọ pụtara): “Kpọkọtanụ ndị mere ihe ọjọọ, ha na ndị ibe ha” [al-Saaffaat 37:22]. Allaah amachibidoro nke ahụ n'ihi ihe ọ gụnyere nnukwu ihe ọjọọ, na enweghị ekworo nchebe, na njiri mara ụmụaka ndị na-abụghị nke ya nye di, na zaani na-emeghị ka ọ dị ọcha n'ihi na ọ na-adọpụ uche ebe ọzọ, nke ọ bụla n'ime ha bụ ihe zuru oke maka mmachibido iwu ahụ. Ngụ ngwụcha.

Tafsier al-Sa’di (p. 561).

A jụrụ ndị ọkà mmụta nke Kọmitii Na-ahụ Maka Ihe:

Otu nwoke riri nne na nwa agbọghọ na-amaghị nwoke ma chọọ ịlụ ya. Onwere ike ime nke ahụ?

Ha zara ya:

Ọ bụrụ na okwu ahụ dị ka akọwara, onye ọ bụla n'ime ha ga-echegharị na Allaah ma hapụ mmehie a, na-akwa ụta maka ihe mere omume rụrụ arụ, ma kpebie na ị gaghị eme ya ọzọ, na-emekwa ọtụtụ ihe ọma, n'olileanya na Allaah ga-anabata nchegharị ha ma tụgharịa ajọ omume ha ka ọ bụrụ ezi ihe. Allaah kwuru (nkọwa nke ihe ọ pụtara):

“Ma ndị na-akpọkughị chi ọzọ (chi) ya na Allaah, nor kill such person as Allaah has forbidden, except for just cause, nor commit illegal sexual intercourse ___ and whoever does this shall receive the punishment.

69. The torment will be doubled to him on the Day of Resurrection, and he will abide therein in disgrace;

70. Except those who repent and believe (in Islamic Monotheism), and do righteous deeds; for those, Allaah will change their sins into good deeds, and Allaah is Oft‑Forgiving, Most Merciful

71. And whosoever repents and does righteous good deeds; then verily, he repents towards Allaah with true repentance”

[al-Furqaan 25:68-70]

If he wants to marry her, then he must wait for one menstrual cycle to establish whether her womb is empty before doing the marriage contract with her. If it turns out that she is pregnant, mgbe ahụ ọ gaghị ekwe ka ya na ya mee nkwekọrịta alụmdi na nwunye ruo mgbe ọ mụsịrị nwa, dị ka hadith nke onye-amụma siri dị (udo na ngozi diri ya) machibidoro mmadụ ka ọ were mmiri nke ya ṅụọ ihe ubi onye ọzọ. Ngụ ngwụcha.

Fatawa Islamiyyah (3/247).

Ya mere chegharịa na-agakwuru Allaah ma dozie okwu gị, na-emekwa ọtụtụ ihe ọma, ma emesia ọ ga-ekwe ka ị lụọ. Anyị na-arịọ Allaah ka ọ nabata nchegharị gị ma gbaghara gị, site n'amara na ebere Ya.

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