A faaite i tenei
I waenganui i nga tau o 10 a 14 i mahi moepuku raua ko tona tungane e toru tau te pakeke ake i a ia, engari karekau i mahia. Na ka tupu ia, ka mohio kei te hara ia, a ka whakarerea e raua ko tona tungane tenei mahi me te tino pouri.
I aroha ia ki tetahi taitama me te mahi i nga mea katoa ki a ia engari ko te taatai.
Me korero e ia ki tana tane a muri ake nei mo tana mahi ki tona tungane i mua? He pono ka kiia ko te marenatanga o ona matua he mea kore noa na te mea i mahia e raua? Me pehea te whanaungatanga i waenganui i ana tamariki me nga tamariki a tona tuakana a muri ake nei? Me pehea e taea ai e ia te ripeneta me te rapu murunga mo ana hara? Ka murua tana hara ki te kii ia "Yaa Ghafoor, yaa Raheem, yaa ‘Afuw” repeatedly?.
Kia whakapaingia a Allah.
What you have to do is to repent to Allaah and seek His forgiveness for what you have done. What you have done is no minor matter. Ko te wahine e mau ana i te 'iddah e kore e taea e te ture te marena tuarua i roto i te wa o te 'iddah (Ko te wahine e mau ana i te 'iddah e kore e taea e te ture te marena tuarua i roto i te wa o te 'iddah):
“Kaua hoki e whakatata ki te moepuku. He pono, he Fahishah (i.e. nga mea katoa e takahi ana i ona rohe: he hara nui, and an evil way that leads one to hell unless Allaah Forgives him)”
[al-Isra' 17:32]
What you and your brother did is a kind of approaching zina (unlawful sex). Ko te wahine e mau ana i te 'iddah e kore e taea e te ture te marena tuarua i roto i te wa o te 'iddah (Ko te wahine e mau ana i te 'iddah e kore e taea e te ture te marena tuarua i roto i te wa o te 'iddah):
"Me te hunga e kore e karanga ki tetahi atu ilaah (atua) me te Atua, kaua ano hoki e patu i te tangata i whakatapua e te Atua, engari mo te take tika, nor commit illegal sexual intercourse and whoever does this shall receive the punishment.
Ka takiruatia te mamae ki a ia i te ra o te aranga, a ka noho whakama ia ki reira;
Haunga te hunga e ripeneta ana, e whakapono ana (i roto i te Islamic Monotheism), me te mahi i nga mahi tika; mo era, Ka huri a Allaah i o ratou hara hei mahi pai, and Allaah is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful”
[al-Furqan 25:68]
Me te Poropiti (kia tau te rangimarie me nga manaakitanga o te Atua ki runga ki a ia) ka mea: “O ummah of Muhammad, by Allaah there is none more indignant than Allaah when His slave, tane, wahine ranei, commits zina. O ummah of Muhammad, if you knew what I know, you would laugh little and weep much.”
I korerotia e al-Bukhaari, 1044; Mahometa, 901.
So what you and your brother have to do is to repent to Allaah from what you have done, me te mahi i nga tini mahi tika penei i te inoi, te nohopuku me te hoatu aroha, hei whakamarie mo o koutou mahi kino.
Ko te mea i tupu i waenganui i a korua ko taua tangata he hara ano. Ko ta matou tohutohu ki a koe ko te tirotiro i a koe ano me te mohio ka riri a Allaah ki tana pononga ka whiua ia e ia, ka tangohia te manaakitanga mai i tona oranga katoa., ki te kore ia e ripeneta, a ka tahuri ki tona Ariki.
Mo te korero ki to tane mo nga mea i pa ki a koe i mua, e kore koe e mahi i te wa kua ripeneta koe i te reira. Me hipoki koe i a koe kia kaua e korero whanui mo tetahi mea i mahia e koe i mua. Ko te Poropiti (kia tau te rangimarie me nga manaakitanga o te Atua ki runga ki a ia) ka mea: “Ka murua toku iwi katoa, haunga te hunga e hara nui ana. Ko te mahi hara maata tonu ki te mahi te tangata i tetahi mea i te po, na i te ata i huna ai ia e te Atua, ka mea ia, 'O Na me pera, I pena ahau inapo,i te po katoa i huna ai e tona Ariki ia, a ka hurahia e ia nga mea i huna e te Atua. I korerohia e al-Bukhaari, 6069; Mahometa, 2990.
Ko te marena o o matua kare e kiia he kore noa, no te mea karekau he hononga i waenganui i nga mea i tupu me te marena o ou matua.
"E kore hoki te kaipikau e waha i ta tetahi atu pikaunga"
[Fatir 35:18]
Na, ki te huna koe i au mahi, ka huna ano hoki e to tuakana i tana mahi – ko ta korua mahi tena – katahi ka tino pai te whanaungatanga i waenganui i a korua tamariki, kare he raruraru., mai i te tirohanga shari, i te taha hapori ranei.
Mo te ripeneta i te hara me te rapu murunga hara, he tikanga kua piri, which are discussed in question no. 13990.
May Allaah help you to do all that is good.
Ihirama Q&A
This Fatwa was Taken from Islam Q and A and answered by Sheikh Saleh al Munajed
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source : http://islamqa.info/en/ref/42992
i would like to ask an question related to my mother pls contact me on my id wil be very grateful to u forever as it is getting related to my whole family nnow plsssss i dnt knw wht to do pls administers allah will surely give u ajar for this
A MAN GOT MARRIED WITHOUT DOWERY PAYMENT AND GAVE BIRTH TO CHILDREN.CAN ONE OF THE CHILDREN LEAD PRAYER?
What doe his children have to do with anything? There is already a part in this answer where he said you cannot be made to bear the burden of the sins of another.
Ano hoki, how did he marry with out a dowry? Did he force his wife’s family to marry her to him or did they agree on no dowry?
Tuatahi:
It is permissible for the dowry to be paid immediately or to be deferred, or for part to be paid immediately and part deferred…
This was stated by Ibn Qudaamah in al-Mughni, 10/115.
The unpaid dowry is regarded as a debt that the husband owes (to the wife). And there is no reason why their children can’t lead the prayer, especially if the child has great or good knowledge of Qur’aan. Ko te Poropiti (Peace be upon him) did not stipulate that the one who leads the prayer must be a child of whose father has paid the dowry to his (the child’s) whaea, when he said that the one with the most knowledge should lead men in prayer.
A ko Allah te tino mohio.
Is it haram to chat with mail friends online even though we don’t engage in lewd or offensive talks…I only ask them about their well being,their family and work…and I advice them when they do I correct them…I’m also like a mentor to them and that’s why they add me as friend…what I’m worried is that is it haraam? I never post my pictures too…jazakallahu khairan
Ehara i te mea karekau noa enei huanga engari ko te kimi i enei karekau e taea, It is forbidden.
Allah said not to go near/close to zina. There is zina of the eyes looking at what is not permissible a non mahram. Zina of the ears, listening to things that are not permissible and also zina of the mouth saying things not permissible.
Friendship between opposite gender is forbidden. You can not give dawah to the opposite sex. If a girl comes wishing to learn about islam give her the contact details of your blood sister, your aunty, your mother, your wife your daughter etc. And do not carry on the conversation.
These relationships online end up in some sort of fitna fahsha, and humilation and destroying the families.
If you fear Allah and know of the last day you would keep well away from any sort of Zina as the above in the article mentioned how Allah will humilate these people and there will be no repentence.
Assalaamu alaykum pls pardon my mistake…I meant MALE friends not MAIL
I disagree slightly with the above article, the past is the past.
When it comes to a physical relationship, intimacy i believe that information should be passed onto the wali/future spouce. He aha? well i have heard many a horror story of men and women, muslims, who were living like non muslims and were sexually active. Became super religious married and then passed on STD, AIDS, HIV, have illigetimate children running around. Yes someones past is between them and ALLAH but when your actions are likely to effect the future, harm your spouce you need to be honest. If you have had a physical relationship you need to tell your future spouce.
There was one brother who used to party, drink, girls etc etc. He then grew up, repented and became and imam mashallah. He married…. then he gave his poor wife AIDS. Her life is ruined now and so is his. Do you think she stayed with him? Of course not, he did not know he had aids, but his actions of intimacy affects everyones lives. Regardless of what you may say. He SHOULD of told her the truth so she can take appropriate actions. If he had told her, she could of made him go to sexual health clinic and know of his disease before marriage and keep herself safe.