Хайрын далд аюулууд

Хайр бол сохор, тэгэхээр тэд хэлдэг. ҮНЭХЭЭР үү? Би хамгийн сүүлд зарцуулсан 20 Хэцүү, онцгой нөхцөл байдалд "хайр"-ыг ажиглаж, нэг дүгнэлт, нэг дүгнэлтэд хүрсэн жилүүд. Хайр бол зөвхөн гэрлэлтээр эмчлэх ёстой өвчин юм.

Ибн Аббас мөн Бошиглогчийн хэлсэн гэж хэлсэн: “Хайртай хүмүүсийн хувьд гэрлэлт бол хамгийн сайн шийдэл юм.” [Ибн Мажа]

Үнэн бол хоёр хүн үерхдэг, Өөрсдийнхөө хүслээс өөр хэнийг ч хардаггүй бөгөөд амархан нүгэл үйлддэг. "Халал" хайр гэж байдаггүй.

Бошиглогч С.А.В хэлдэг:

"Эмэгтэй хүнтэй ганцаардах эр хүн байдаггүй, харин шайтан бол гурав дахь нь юм." [Ахмад өгүүлсэн, ат-Тирмизи ба аль-Хаким; classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Jaami’ (2546)

The hadith proves one thing and one thing alone – that no matter how well meaning our intentions are, Shaytaan always comes between two people to cause their hearts to become weak. And I have witnessed this countless times over my lifetime…

While at college, I witnessed a brother who became rather obsessed by a sister who happened to be a Shia. She found him witty, charming and funny and it would have been fair to say they had an instant attraction.

Цаг хугацаа өнгөрөх тусам, the two of them developed a special and deep bond – so much so that they would never be seen without each other. This was the ‘romance of the college.’ Astagfirullah, the sister admitted to me that she had indeed fallen into the major sin of fornication – insisting that ‘it just happened’. The worst of it was that they never married because their aqeedah was completely different.

Then there are cases of so-called platonic relationships where these too have ended up in fornication. The ‘love’ for a friend can often brew into something more – which can ruin lives and leave guilt that lasts a lifetime.

I’ve often heard people saying that their intentions were ‘good’ when they initially wanted to marry someone and weren’t interested in anything other than marriage. Family problems and the refusal to allow people to marry because of ethnicity, backgrounds, cultures etc can cause heartache for the ones in question…and this can eventually lead into sin.

The truth of the matter is that unless you are so exceptionally strong in your faith to turn away the desires of the heart, the best solution is to keep away from the one you have feelings for and get the family involved so they can get you married in the most respectful way possible.

I’ve seen sisters who have emotionally blackmailed brothers into marrying them or being with them. I even heard of a case where a sister deliberately got pregnant because she didn’t want to lose the brother. Five years later, they are divorced and there is a constant struggle between the two with regards to the children.

I’ve witnessed brothers promise sisters the world and then give them nothing in return except heartache. I know of a sister who married a brother with a drinking problem because he swore he would change after marriage. It never happened and ten years and two children later, they are divorced.

There is no such thing as ‘halal’ love, no matter how well meaning your intentions are. The affairs of the heart are not easy and in every case the only solution if you truly fear Allah SWT is to get married as soon as possible so that your desires can be nurtured in a halal way that is acceptable to Allah SWT.

May Allah SWT protect us all from falling into sin and grant us righteous spouses who keep us happy and fulfilled and help us attain jannah – ameen.

Written by The Girl In The Black Hijaab

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