Nqa Mrs. Sab xis

Dawb xav zoo meej ntais ntawv, tus txiv leej tub zoo tagnrho, Mr. Txaus. Nws tau hnov nws cov phooj ywg daydreaming txog lawv tub huabtais Charming.

"Nws yuav tau charming, nplua nuj, ib tug neeg ua hauj lwm los yog ib lub lag luam tycoon, hlub, tu. Nws yuav siv tag nrho nws lub sij hawm spare nrog nws tus poj niam, nws da dej nrog pearls thiab rubies, ib yam uas muaj lavish thiab romantic tswm ciab dinners, ces yuav tsum taug ntawm lub seashore. Auj! Lub neej zoo li cas lub neej yuav nrog tej tus txiv leej tub."

Muaj ntau tus hluas nkauj li Sakina thiab nws cov phooj ywg tab sis nyob nrhiav ib match kuv tus kheej, Cov qualities tsis nyuaj heev rau kuv. Tos ib pliag, Kuv hais rau kuv tus kheej. Nws muaj nws ib qho teeb meem. Tsis zoo xwb yog cov qualities unrealistic, tiam sis nrhiav lawv yuav tau tom ntej no yuav tsis yooj yim sua.

txaus ntshai Muslimah, Kuv yeej thiab genuinely xav yuav kuv ib nrab zoo tab sis tsis yog dreaming ntawm Mr. Sab xis, Kuv sim paub seb kuv zoo ib nrab hnub yuav yeej xav ntawm kuv. Yuav tsum qhia qhov tseeb, Kuv pib incentive yog ib qho selfish ib, es tsis kiag li raws li cov piety. Muaj, Kuv xav hwm kuv, Nyiam kuv thiab kho kuv nyiam ib poj huab tais.

Ntau yuav xav tias kuv npau suav yog ib feem ntawm ib tug qus goose tab sis kuv yog convinced tias yog kuv yeej sim nqa rau kuv tus kheej lub qualities ib tug txiv neej zoo tagnrho yuav xav nyob hauv ib tug poj niam thiab yog hais tias kuv muab tawm mus nrhiav ib tug zoo xyaum Muslim, Nws yuav muab kuv dab tsi kuv xav los ntawm ib tug txiv, nws muaj tseeb. dhau li ntawm ib sab, Kuv yog ntseeg thiab muaj tiaj nras Allah thiab lub caij peb hnov qab ntawd tiaj nras txhais tau tias peb strive thiab ua duav, tsis cia li ua duav thiab xyaum.

Li ntawd, muaj pib kuv cov lus mus transform kuv tus kheej, Coj txog cov npaum li cas xav qualities, Firstly rau lub worldly benefit of tau hlub thiab respected los ntawm kuv tus txiv thiab secondly, ntxuav tes akhirah, Raws li kuv xav kuv tus txiv mus ua ib tug tseem ceeb rau tag nrho cov qhov rooj ntawm lub qhov rooj Jannahkuv.

Kuv pib ntawm nyeem phau ntawv, mus koom kev kawm ntawv thiab seminars sib yuav, Nrog rau tej kev sib tham nrog xyaum muam/viv ncaus kom paub dab tsi daim ntawv qhia txog lub neej zoo siab heev thiab zoo li cas ib tug txiv leej tub pious yuav xav ua ib tug poj niam.

Li no yog cov xya yam uas kuv pom tau hais ib Mrs. Txoj cai yuav tsum muaj, tsim nyog tau txais Mr. Txoj cai thiab kuv yuav sib qiv nrog koj:

1. Xyaum ntawm Islam raws li kev paub.
Nws yuav tsum tau muaj txoj, Yog tsis muaj bunking qhov kev kawm no. Muaj tsis muaj txoj kev tawm ntawm yam Islam zov los ntawm ib tug poj niam, tsis muaj dumping kev cai dab qhuas, tsis muaj dab tsi. Nws yuav tsum tau xa mus rau lub yuav Allah thiab tias nws tau paub dab tsi rau txoj hauj lwm ntawm ib tug poj niam li ib tug poj niam nyob Islam yog. Txawm zoo li cas pure Islam yog yuam kev rau; Txiv neej chauvinist ziag no, tus poj niam subjugated thiab cov nyiam, Nws yog tag nrho ib concoction ntawm peb apologetic westernized mindset thiab txhua tus poj niam txhua tus poj niam twb tau mus tua ntawm nws kom zoo paub.

A Mr. Txoj cai yuav xav tau ib tug poj niam kev cai dab qhuas thiab tsis yog ib tug poj niam kev cai dab qhuas. Tsis yog ib tug niqaij npuas, ib qho tsiaj txhu los sis haifaz, Zoo li cas yuav lawv yuav yog hais tias lawv nyuam qhuav muaj ib tug façade tsis muaj lub dutifulness ntawm ib tug hlub thiab es nyiam poj niam. Nws xav tau ib tug poj niam uas yuav tau qhov kev kawm ntawm nws kaum rau nws tus kheej neeg ua haujlwm, leej twg yuav kis tau ntawm nws tsev neeg thiab lub zej zog nyob ib ncig ntawm nws.

2. Willingness ua raws li nws
Nws xav tau ib tug neeg uas yuav siv qhov txawv uas to taub; Ib tug neeg uas yuav ntse nrog nws rau lub welfare ntawm tsev neeg. Tej zaum txoj kev ntse no yuav tsum tau piav me ntsis ntxiv. Ib tug txiv neej pious xav kom nws tus poj niam nws nyob hauv lub righteousness uas nws enjoins, tsis disobeying nws Creator. Tau mas, Nws yuav muaj xaiv nyob rau hauv kev txiav txim siab ntau yam tab sis nws yuav ua meej pem txoj kev xaiv kom siab nws tus txiv thiab nws tsev neeg tus welfare. Nws yuav tsum tau xav, thiab ntawm no los txog qhov xav tau kev paub.

Tus Neeg Xov Tooj (sallahu alahu wa sallahu) Hais:

"Yog ib tug poj niam observes nws tsib txhua hnub, ceev thaum lub hli ntawm Ramadhan, Tiv ceev xwm nws chastity thiab obeys nws tus txiv, Nws yuav sau Paradise mus txog tej qhov rooj uas nws xav tau." (Ibn Hibban ~ Hadith Sahih)

3. Kev zoo nkauj thiab tau muaj kev zoo nkauj
Qhov no tej zaum kuj superficial me ntsis tiam sis ib tug yuav tsum tsis nco qab tias tiam sis ib tug neeg kev cai dab qhuas neeg yuav nws los nws tseem tsis muaj nuj nqi thiab xav txog nws los yog nws tus tub los ntxhais. Tsis peb psychologically lam tau lam ua thiab feem ntau siab? Peb muaj nuj nqi tawm hauv lub thawv, txawm rau ib pliag? Li ntawd, koj mus, hais mav ib tug ntxhais uas hnav rau lawv. Lawv yog peb cov mov winners, Lawv nkawd thiab tsov lawv tus kheej rau lub comforts peb txaus siab thiab nws tsuas yuav siv sij hawm ob peb feeb zoo saib zoo, transform transform rau fragrance thiab ib pab tub rog, ces mus rau nws lub gal.

Peb tug yawm saub (salahu alaihi yogallam) Hais:
"Qhov zoo tshaj plaws ntawm cov poj niam yog tias nws thov nws thaum nws ntsia nws, Obeys nws thaum nws txiav txim nws thiab tsis raug nws tus kheej los yog nyiaj rau nws tsis xiam." (Ahmed, Tus Nisa'ae, Sahehe Al jami)

4. Loyalty thiab khaws secrets
Ua kom secrets yog tej zaum qhov tseem ceeb tshaj plaws, uas muaj coob tus poj niam tsis mus score zoo thaum lawv yuav muab lawv xav ntau tshaj li tus txiv neej. Tab sis, txoj kev sib raug zoo ntawm tus poj niam, yog hais tias nws qhia tsis tau rau leej twg, uas yog loj thiab koj yuav tsum muab koj di ncauj rau lub ntiaj teb tseem. Thaum twg matters ntawm lub tsev nyob rau hauv nws, Nws yuav pab kom hlub thiab solidarity mus muaj zog.

"... Lawv cov khaub ncaws rau koj thiab koj cov khaub ncaws rau lawv"
(Qaib Ntxhw 2:187)

Loyalty txhais tau tias nws yog nws sab thiab nws tsis ntshai poob nws thaum ib lub nroog strikes lawv lub neej. Ntxiv mus, Loyalty implies tias nws yog searching rau ib tug ntxhais uas yuav sawv ntsug ntawm nws mus txog thiab nyias, Txhawb nws ua zoo txhua tus kheej lub neej. Tsis txhob peb paub li cas Khadija (xov tooj cua radiallahu) sawv ntawm tug yawm saub nyob rau lub sij hawm uas nws raug txim thiab tsis muaj txhais tau tias?

5. Hwm
Wb tau qhov no ib ncaj nraim. Sawv daws yuav tsum hwm, tab sis cov txiv neej muaj rhiab heev txog nws. Lawv xav tau ib tug poj niam uas yuav tsis tsa nws lub suab lawm. Tsis yog kuv tsis txhais hais tias nws yuav tsum tau meek, tiam sis nws yog rightfully muab nws qhov chaw. Nws yuav tsis pom zoo nrog nws, sim kom nws hais tab sis yuav tsum ua li ntawd, nrog hlub thiab hwm. Yog hais tias koj muab nws xav li cas, Nws yuav qhia rau koj seb koj xav li cas raws li kev txwv. Kuv xav tias qhov no yog tus plig ntawm txoj kev sib raug zoo.

Nws yog ib tug uas sau tsev neeg, khwv tau ib tug nyob ntawm bearing cov huab cua ntawm txoj kev thiab psychological upheavals nyob rau hauv qhov chaw ua hauj lwm. Besides tias nws yog ib tug uas yog lub luag hauj lwm thiab teb rau Allah (subhan wa tala) rau kev txawj ntse nws tus poj niam thiab tsev neeg txog kaumthiab txuag lawv ntawm ntuj raug hluav taws. Nws deserves hwm thiab kev sib raug zoo ntawm nws tus txij nkawm thiab ces vim li ntawd yuav tsum tau tuaj muab nws them respect thiab.

6. Truthfulness
Koj yuav tsum tau hnov ntawm tus kheej hniav, Qhov twg peb yeej pub dawb los qhia ib tug dawb dawb kom peb tus txij nkawm zoo siab tab sis tos ib pliag. Nws yog kom peb tus txij nkawm zoo siab tsis fake peb tus txij nkawm rau hauv zoo siab. Tus poj niam muaj tau truthful thiab txij li nws xyaum ntawm Islam, nws txoj kev sib raug zoo thiab tej yam kev cob cog txuas nrog nws.

7. Ib charitable thiab muab xwm
Compassion nyob rau hauv cov poj niam yog tej zaum ntau lom ntau tshaj possessivenessiveness nyob rau hauv cov txiv neej. Tab sis yog nws yuav yog ib qhov teeb meem ntawm kev sis caav, Ib tug txiv neej xav tau ib tug poj niam yuav tsum tu thiab tsis yooj yim heev. Tau kawg jealousy los nrog lub pob ntawm femininity, Tiam sis Islam yog ib tug kev ntseeg kev cai dab qhuas txog kev cai dab qhuas thiab justification thiab tias siv no zoo li no. Mrs Mrs. Txoj cai yog ib tug neeg zov thiab foregoes tej yam nws nyiam los thov nws tus txiv thiab Allah (subhan wa'la) vim li ntawd. dhau li ntawm ib sab, ib charitable thiab compassionate xwm yuav tsum tau pom nrog lwm tus neeg beings, xeeb thiab pab ib tug xav tau. Uas yog ib tug txiv leej tub pious yuav hlub nws tus poj niam yuav tsum muaj.

Nyeem ntawv saum toj no, Feem ntau cov poj niam yuav xav tias txiv neej xav tej yam koj tus kheej, Ib txhia ntxhais kam nyob tom tsev tsuas ua noj, Huv, hnav ris tsho, thiab tsuas ntshai thov nws ib leeg. Txoj kev muaj tiag yog, tsis yog li ntawd, nrog txhua tus txiv neej, Tshwj xeeb tshaj yog cov vaj tswv-fearing ones. Kuv ntseeg tias yog ib tug poj niam yuav channel nws kev txhawj xeeb thiab kev ua si rau akhirah Nyob rau hauv ib txoj kev tiag thiab nyob rau hauv cov kev raug mob uas nws cov hauj lwm, Ces nws yuav ua tus poj huab tais ntawm nws lub plawv ua ib txwj ntawm Allah.

Nco ntsoov muam, Kev sib yuav yog ib tug koom tes thiab cov txij nkawm yuav tsum txaus siab rau lwm txoj cai thiab lawv cov hauj lwm. Peb yuav ua li no koom tes ib tug zoo kawg thiab yog ib tug tswv cuab muaj zog, uas plays lub luag hauj lwm zoo uas strengthens cov nyiaj ntawm lub neej, nrog rau tag nrho Allah.

Kuv ua tiag qhia rau txhua tus Muslimah Muaj searching rau ib tug tswv cuab lub neej yog hais kom lawv tus kheej ua ntej lawv yuav ua li cas lawv xav kom lawv xav los ntawm ib tug txiv neej thiab mus nrhiav ib tug neeg uas yog ib tug xyaum thiab Vaj tswv ntshai Muslim. Obviously dab tsi nyob rau hauv lub plawv no paub tias Allah tsuas tab sis striving paub ntxiv txog lawv tus txiv prospective ntawm nws tsev neeg, tej phooj ywg thiab neighbours yuav pab rau qhov kev txiav txim siab ua, lam.Istakhara Plays ib lub luag hauj lwm tseem ceeb heev nyob rau theem no lub neej thiab txhua tus ntxhais yuav tsum ua tu siabhais txog nws tus txiv prospective thiaj li nrhiav divine pab.

Muaj tseeb zoo siab yog weaved intricately nrog rau cov ntsiab lus ntawm lub plawv. Nco ntsoov koj xaiv ib tug neeg, tsis nws kawm ntawv, tsis tau nws lub tsev, tsis nws tej khoom muaj nqi los yog nws zoo li. Sim kom cov zaj dabneeg uas zov li npaj tau thiab tej zaum lawv yuav tau ntsib thiab koj tshawb xyuas tej zaum yuav ua tau nyob rau hauv zaj dabneeg zoo, lam. Wishing tag nrho cov Muslimaat nws muaj ib tug zoo siab hubby huby, thiab tej zaum nws yuav yog tus yuam sij qhib txhua lub qhov rooj Ntawm Jannah rau koj. Ameen.

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