Huwelijksonderhoud

Soms voel ik me overweldigd door de eisen van het dagelijks leven. Huishoudelijke klusjes afronden, voor mijn zoon zorgen, catering voor mijn schoonouders, my brothers in law and my husband – everything gets too much. Dus, how do you find that balance? How do you fulfill the needs of your children without neglecting the needs of your husband? How do you keep everyone happy?

Islam has made the wife a source of tranquillity, ease and consolation for her husband.

"En onder Zijn Tekenen is dit:, die Hij voor jullie uit jullie midden heeft geschapen, opdat je in rust bij hen mag wonen, en Hij heeft liefde en barmhartigheid tussen jullie geplaatst [harten]en het trainen voor het Hiernamaals (Koran 30:21)

Soms voel ik me overweldigd door de eisen van het dagelijks leven. Huishoudelijke klusjes afronden, voor mijn zoon zorgen, catering voor mijn schoonouders, my brothers in law and my husband – everything gets too much. Dus, how do you find that balance? How do you fulfil the needs of your children without neglecting the needs of your husband? How do you keep everyone happy?

Structure

You may have a million and one things to do every day. Your workload seems to be getting bigger and bigger and there’s no one to help you. geef elkaar de meest geweldige groet van een moslim, make du’a and get on with it. The best way to get everything done is to structure your day according to the five prayers. It is better to start your day at fajr and complete your chores efficiently by dhuhr. No husband likes a dirty home and an empty fridge.

The Holy Prophet Muhammad (vrede en zegeningen zij met hem) zei: ‘Ieder van jullie is een herder, and each of you is responsible for those under his care. Een heerser is een herder; een man is de herder van zijn gezin; een vrouw is de herder van het huis en de kinderen van haar man. For each of you is a shepherd and each of you is responsible for those under his care.’

Be Positive

Imagine coming home, terribly exhausted, to find your wife in a foul mood. She’s got a frown on her face, and seems to be muttering angrily. Immediately, staying at work seems more attractive than having to come home to a bad atmosphere.

Greet your husband with a smile, and tend to him lovingly. It is easy to be oblivious of the hard work our husbands do. Their work seems to be the last thing on our minds because we are so preoccupied with other things. Despite how bad your day may have been, a good wife will always have a positive attitude. The Holy Prophet Muhammad (vrede en zegeningen zij met hem) zei: `A Muslim man can acquire no benefit after Islam greater than a Muslim wife who makes him happy when he looks at her, obeys him when he commands her, and protects him when he is away from her in herself and in his property.

Time Together

‘Since the baby’s been born, you have hardly talked to me. It’s like I don’t exist’.

Mostly new mothers are guilty of this. When you have your first baby, you are so excited and nervous and busy, that you forget you have a husband. Being a mother tends to take over every other relationship, and that can be detrimental to your marriage. Make sure you give your husband some love and affection too.

Go for a walk or read a book together. Make the time you spend alone with your husband special. Your husband deserves some attention too.

The Holy Prophet Muhammad (vrede en zegeningen zij met hem) zei: ‘Any woman, who dies, and her husband is pleased with her, will enter paradise.’

Finally…

Wees geduldig.

“And practice sabr, certainly Allaah does not let the reward of the Muhsineen be lost.” (Koran 11:115)

It is essential to practice sabr as Allaah will reward people who have patience with paradise with:“Peace be upon you for the sabr you practised. Excellent indeed is the final home.” (Koran 13:24)

Structure your day, be positive, spend time with your husband and be patient. You will be successful inshaa’Allaah.

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Artikel door- Aaila- Tijdschrift voor de moslimfamilie – aangeboden door Pure Matrimony- www.purematrimony.com – 's Werelds grootste huwelijksdienst voor praktiserende moslims.

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