Kusankha Wokwatirana Naye

Wolemba Ukwati Wangwiro - Epulo, 23rd 2014

Kukambitsirana ndi bwenzi lapamtima nthaŵi ina kunali kosonkhezeredwa ndi chisangalalo chake ndi kunena mosalekeza kuti akufuna kukwatiwa.. Anandiuza kuti ali ndi mchimwene wake m'maganizo mwake yemwe adamukopa ndi chithumwa chake, nzeru, ndi mawonekedwe okongola. Iye ananena kuti nayenso amamukonda. Analankhula zambiri za iye, koma palibe chomwe ankadziwa chomwe chinali chenicheni. Kumuthandiza kuganiza mozama pakufuna kwake ukwati, Ndinamukumbutsa za kufunika kokhala oleza mtima posankha wokwatirana naye. Komabe mwachangu, adayendetsa kamvuluvulu wamalingaliro wodzaza ndi kutengeka mtima komanso mahomoni osangalatsa m'banjamo.

Iwo analibe mwayi wotero. M’miyezi isanu ndi itatu ukwati unatha. Zosagwirizana pakuchita kwawo kwa Chisilamu, zikhalidwe zawo, ndipo zolinga za moyo wawo zinali zinthu zofunika kwambiri pa chiwonongeko cha ukwati.

Anafotokoza bwanji kuti banjali lalephereka? Anati m’baleyo sanali wokonzeka kukwatiwa. Anaganizanso kuti sakanatha kudziwa kuti sadakonzekere ngakhale atakhala kuti sanathamangire. Iye ndi ine sitinagwirizane.

Kusankha wokwatirana naye ndiye chosankha chofunika kwambiri, atatenga digiri (umboni wa chikhulupiriro). Quran ikunena zomwe zikutanthauza: {Kwatiwani amene ali osakwatiwa mwa inu, kapena Ochita zabwino mwa inu nokha, wamwamuna kapena wamkazi: ngati ali mu umphawi, Allah adzawapatsa njira kuchokera mu chisomo Chake: pakuti Mulungu Wazinga zonse, ndipo akudziwa Chilichonse.} [24: 32] Allaah amatsindika kwambiri za kufunika kwa ukwati ndi udindo wake m'miyoyo yathu.

Ukwati ndi theka la deen wathu (chipembedzo). Quran ikufotokoza tanthauzo lake:{Ndipo zina mwa zisonyezo Zake ndi izi, kuti adakulengani akazi ochokera mwa inu nokha, kuti mukhale nawo mwamtendere, Ndipo waika pakati panu chikondi ndi chifundo (mitima): Ndithu, m'zimenezo muli zisonyezo kwa olingalira.} [30: 2 1]

Chifukwa ukwati mu Islam ndi wofunika kwambiri, ndikofunikira kupereka nthawi yabwino ndikuganizira posankha munthu yemwe mudzakhalemo moyo wanu wonse. Nthawi zambiri, anthu ofunidwa amathera nthawi yochuluka kukonzekera mwambo waukwati kusiyana ndi kukonzekera ukwati. Komabe, Muyenera kuthera nthawi yochuluka podziwana bwino ndi mnzanuyo. Nkhaniyi ifotokoza mfundo zofunika kwambiri zimene akazi ayenera kutsatira posankha mwamuna.

Pangani maziko

Choyamba komanso chofunika kwambiri, akazi ayenera kuyamba kukonzekera ukwati ndi maphunziro, pemphero, thikr (kukumbukira Allah), kutchulidwa kwa Wali (woyang'anira) ngati kuli kofunikira, ndi kuphunzira machitidwe achipembedzo. Maphunziro ndi ofunikira pophunzira za kufunikira kwa pemphero ndi miyambo ina yachisilamu. Mwachitsanzo, akazi amvetse kuti ukwati mu Islam umayambira dunya (dziko) ndipo akupitirizabe ku tsiku lomaliza. Chotero sitikungosankha wokwatirana naye pa moyo uno, komanso ku moyo wotsatira-Insha Allaah. Zinthu zopanga monga chikhalidwe cha anthu ndi kukongola ziyenera kuonedwa kuti ndizochepa poyerekeza ndi umulungu. Quran ikunena zomwe zikutanthauza: {Koma kwa amene alandira chiongoko, Iye amawonjezera (kuwala kwa) malangizo, ndipo awapatsa Kuopa kwawo ndi kudziletsa kwawo (kwa oipa).} [47: 17] Kuopa Mulungu kumalimbitsa khalidwe ndi kutifikitsa kwa Allah.

Nkwachibadwa kwa akazi kufuna chisungiko ndipo amuna kulakalaka mkazi wokongola. Ngakhale anthu akugogomezera izi ndi malingaliro ena, Asilamu apewe kuchita khama kwambiri ndikuyang'ana kwambiri kukwaniritsa zolinga zadziko. Mwanjira ina, kutsimikizira kuwona mtima kwa wokwatirana naye pakuchita chipembedzo cha Chisilamu kumaposa zinthu zina monga chuma., kukongola kapena udindo.

Funani chiongoko cha Allah

Azimayi ayenera kufunafuna chitsogozo cha Allah nthawi zonse pofunafuna okwatirana. Ndipo kenako, nthawi iliyonse munthu akakayikira kapena kudandaula ayenera kupanga salah Istikharah—pemphero lopempha chitsogozo. Salah iyi ikhoza kugwiritsidwa ntchito nthawi iliyonse.

Khalani ndi makhalidwe abwino

Chibwenzi mu Chisilamu chili ndi magawo. Pamene mukudziŵana bwino ndi mnzanuyo, ndibwino kutero mkati mwa malangizo ovomerezeka. Nthawi zambiri, mwamuna ndi mkazi sayenera kukhala okha ngati sali pabanja. Hadith imodzi imati, “Mwamuna sayenera kukhala yekha ndi mkazi, pakuti ndithu, Satana apanga gawo lachitatu” (Muslim). Mwamuna asadzitalikitse ndi mkazi kupatula ndi Mahram (woyang'anira)” (Muslim). Komanso, ngati mkazi wosakwatiwa wapeza mwamuna amamukonda, asamuyang'ane kapena kuyandikira kwa iye. Quran ikunena zomwe zikutanthauza: {Ndipo auze Asilamu aakazi kuti atsitse maso awo, nakhale odzichepetsa. Zimenezo nzoyera kwa iwo. Iwo! Mulungu akudziwa zimene akuchita.} [24: 30]

Kulumikizana kulikonse pakati pa mkazi ndi yemwe angakhale wokwatirana naye kuyenera kuyang'aniridwa ndi wali wa mkaziyo. Wali ndi mtetezi mwalamulo yemwe ndi bwenzi kapena mtetezi yemwe akuyenera kuyang'ana zofuna zake.

Polankhula ndi amene akufuna kukhala mnzawo, akazi azilankhula molunjika. Pewani kukopana ndi kukambirana zilizonse zokhudzana ndi kugonana. M'malo mwake, Kukambitsirana kuyenera kukhala kwachiyembekezo ndipo kuphatikizepo mitu yokhudzana ndi kufunafuna ukwati. Kupeza zomwe mumakonda, kumvetsetsa mikhalidwe yazachuma, kugawana njira zakulera komanso zokhudzana ndi apongozi ndi zitsanzo za mitu yololedwa kukambirana. Ngati ndi pamene zikuwonekera kuti okwatirana omwe angakhale okwatirana sakugwirizana, zokambirana zithe.

Lingalirani za kugwirizana kwachipembedzo

Ndikofunika kupeza ngati mumagwirizana pachipembedzo pazochitika za tsiku ndi tsiku. Munthu sangaganize nthawi zonse kuti kukhala Muslim ndi chitsimikizo kuti mudzakhala ogwirizana kapena "omangidwa m'goli lofanana." Dzifunseni nokha-Kodi machitidwe ake achisilamu akuwoneka ngati omasuka kapena oletsa?? Akumva bwanji ndi mmene mumavalira zovala zanu? Kodi mungakonde kuti azivala thobs (zovala zachikhalidwe)? Kodi amayesa bwanji kuopa Mulungu? Amawononga bwanji nthawi yake mu Ramadhan? Maganizo ake ndi otani pa miyambo yachisilamu padziko lonse lapansi? Kodi amatsatira ntchito ya salah (5 nthawi za tsiku ndi tsiku salah yofunikira) ndi kusunga nthawi?

Kambiranani zoyembekeza

Pamagawo apamwamba a kufufuza kwanu, lankhulani zoyembekeza za wina ndi mnzake. Mufunseni maganizo ake pa nkhani ya kulera. Kambiranani za nthawi yomwe mukufuna kukhala ndi ana. Mukakhala ndi ana mungakonde kukhala kunyumba? ‘Kodi mungakonde kugwira ntchito? Kodi mumamva bwanji mukamaphunzitsa ana anu kunyumba? Kodi amamva bwanji akamathandiza ntchito zapakhomo?? Kambiranani za malo okhala.

Lankhulani ndi achibale ake ndi anzake

Phunzirani za mnzanu amene mungadzakwatirane naye mwa kulankhula ndi Banja lake ndi mabwenzi. Pochita izi mudzapeza kumvetsetsa za khalidwe lake. Lankhulani ndi anthu amene amamudziwa kunja kwa banja lake. Funsani mafunso okhudza khalidwe lake ndi mmene amachitira zinthu ndi anthu. Dziwani za khalidwe lake pa nkhani zosiyanasiyana. Ndi ntchito ziti zomwe amachita m'deralo? Kodi zake zaposachedwa komanso zazitali- mapulani a nthawi? Pezani mlingo wake wa kulolera ndi malo okhala anthu osiyana ndi iye. Kodi amagwirizana bwanji ndi makolo ake komanso anthu omwe si amuna kapena akazi anzawo?? Ngati bodza lili ndi ana, amagwirizana nawo? Fufuzani khalidwe lake ndi umunthu wake polankhula ndi anthu omwe amamudziwa.

Munthu wakhalidwe labwino amalemekezedwa kwambiri mu Chisilamu. Imam Tirmidhiy adafotokoza Hadith iyi, “Ngati abwera kwa inu amene khalidwe lake ndi chipembedzo chake chikukusangalatsani (ndi malingaliro), muyenera kumukwatira (kwa akazi anu osakwatiwa). Ngati simutero, padzakhala masautso m’dziko ndi chivundi chachikulu.” Komanso kudziwa za makolo ake. Tsimikizirani mulingo wawo wofanana nawo kwa inu. Khulupirirani kapena musakhulupirire, ichi ndi chinthu chofunika kwambiri. Dziwani kuti udindo wake kwa makolo ake udzakhala wotani mukadzakwatirana.

Mvetserani mwatcheru ku zimene akunena

Dziwani chifukwa chake mukufuna kukwatira. Dziwani ngati amakukondani kapena ayi kapena ngati zolinga zake zili zachiphamaso. Mwachitsanzo, kodi akufuna kukwatira chifukwa anzake onse akukwatira? Dziwani ngati ali weniweni, ndipo akufuna kukwatiwa chifukwa ali m'chikondi.

Funsani mafunso anu enieni

Pamene zokambirana zikupitilira, funsani mafunso aumwini. Mufunseni maganizo ake pa nkhani ya katundu, moyo ndi ndalama. Funsani zalamulo zakale. Iye anayamba wathamangirapo ndi lamulo? Ali ndi chizolowezi cha matenda enaake? Komanso, mu tsiku ndi m'badwo wake, mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu wothekera ayenera kukhala wofunitsitsa kuyezetsa AIDS musanakwatirane. Ngati adakwatirana kale, mufunseni mmene anachitira ndi mikangano ndi kusagwirizana. Onetsetsani kuti sakuphunzira mokwanira za inu chifukwa amayamba kukuuzani zomwe akuganiza kuti mukufuna kumva. Mufunseni za ntchito yake yakale komanso mapulani amtsogolo amtsogolo. Mufunseni mafunso amene angaulule zimene amaona kuti n’zofunika komanso mmene amaonera zinthu pa moyo komanso nkhani za padziko lonse. Maganizo ake ndi otani pa za ufulu wa amayi? Thanzi ndi zakudya ndizofunikira bwanji kwa iye? Maganizo ake ndi otani pankhani ya mitala? Funsani mafunso ofufuza kuti muone ngati banja likuyenda bwino kapena kulephera. Momwe mungaganizire kufunsa, chabwino.

Yang'anani iye

Pitani ku zochitika za m'dera komanso zosangalatsa zomwe adzapiteko. Sinthani zochitikazo ndikumuyang'ana kuti muwone momwe amachitira ndi anthu m'malo osiyanasiyana panthawi zosiyanasiyana.

Lingalirani za nthawi yayitali

Kodi munthu uyu ali ndi zofooka ndi zofooka zomwe zingathe kulekerera kwa moyo wonse? Kodi iye ayenera kukondweretsa Allah ngakhale pamene sakukwaniritsa zoyembekeza zake? Kodi adzakhala bambo wabwino? Kodi pali nkhani zilizonse zomwe akuwona kuti zimafunikira kusiya mwamuna kapena mkazi?? Ganizirani mosamalitsa chiŵerengero cha nthaŵi zimene wakhala wokwatira ngati anakwatirapo kale.

Dziwani zosowa zanu

Ganizirani ngati ndi munthu amene angakwaniritse zosowa zanu kapena ayi. Osadzilungamitsira ndikuvomereza makhalidwe omwe mukudziwa kuti sakugwirizana ndi inu chifukwa mukuganiza kuti mutha kusintha pambuyo pake. Dzifunseni nokha, “Kodi ali ndi udindo ndipo amadziwa kuyika patsogolo? Kodi amandilemekeza monga momwe ndiliri kapena akuwoneka ngati akufuna kundisintha? Kodi akufuna kuti ndikule m'maganizo ndi muuzimu pamene ndikupitiriza njira ya Chisilamu?”

Khazikani mtima pansi

Ukwati ndi wovuta. Osathamangira kulowamo. Kuchita zinthu mopupuluma nthawi zambiri kumabweretsa tsoka. Pamafunika nthawi kuti timudziwe bwino munthuyo. Allah akuphunzitsa kuti amene ali opirira adzalowa ku paradiso. Qur’an ikuti, “Amene amaleza mtima, kulimba ndi kudziletsa; amene ali owona (m’mawu ndi m’zochita); amene amapembedza modzipereka; amene amawononga (m’njira ya Allah; ndi amene amapemphera chikhululuko m’bandakucha.” [3:17]

Ganizirani nokha

Musamaganize kuti mavalidwe ake kapena kalankhulidwe kake ndi umboni wa umunthu wake kapena mmene angakuchitireni.. Maonekedwe "opembedza" satanthauza kuti munthuyo ndi wopembedza. Munthu amene amawerenga Qur’an m’mauthenga aliwonse amene amakhala nanu, nayenso sakhala woopa Mulungu. Yesetsani kuchotsa mikhalidwe iliyonse yomwe ingakhale yongopeka ndi chinyengo kuti mupambane muukwati.

Pita ndi mtima wako

Gwiritsani ntchito zisonyezo za Allah ndi chiongoko kuti zikuthandizeni panjira. Mtima wanu uli ndi kuthekera kotsogolera nthawi zambiri pomwe malingaliro anu angalephere. Nthawi zina timagwiritsa ntchito malingaliro athu kulungamitsa zinthu zomwe sitingafune kuziwona kapena kuvomereza.

Zomwe ndinakumana nazo posankha mwamuna zinali zachilendo chifukwa ndinali wapadera kwambiri. Ndinali makamaka kuposa wali wanga. Popanga salah (mapemphero asanu atsiku ndi tsiku), Ndikadapempha Allah kuti andipatse mwamuna yemwe adakumana ndi mndandanda wanga 44 ziyembekezo za m’banja. Ndinaona mndandandawo kukhala malangizo a banja labwino. Ngakhale ndimaganiza kuti mndandanda wanga unali wapamwamba kwambiri, adavomereza zonse 44 mikhalidwe. Takhala m'banja zaka zitatu ndikuwerengera. Pamenepo, tinakwatirana katatu—choyamba Chisilamu, chachiwiri mwachilungamo, ndipo chachitatu ndi achibale ndi abwenzi omwe adalipo pa walimah (phwando laukwati). Al-Hamdulillah!

Palibe umboni uliwonse wakuti ukwati udzakhala wopambana. N’zoona kuti pali zinthu zimene zingathandize kuchepetsa mavuto, koma ndimakhulupiriradi kuti ndi zoona zomwe mnzanga wina ananena, “Banja lili ngati nkhondo yatsiku ndi tsiku, tsiku lililonse mwamuna ndi mkazi ayenera kumenyera nkhondo.” Ndikuganiza kuti ichi ndi chifukwa chimodzi chachikulu chomwe ukwati ulili gawo losangalatsa la moyo, ndicho chifukwa chake umakhala wokondeka ndi wamtengo wapatali kwa ife tikamausunga kukhala wamoyo.

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