Nthawi Yabwino Ndi Abambo

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Nkhaniyi ikufotokoza za ubale umene ulipo pakati pa atate ndi mwana m’chitaganya chofulumirachi komanso chosoŵa nthaŵi, ndipo ili ndi malangizo othandiza amomwe mungasinthire unansi umenewu kuti banja lonse lipindule..
Akuti abambo ogwira ntchito amawononga ndalama pafupifupi 3 mphindi patsiku ndi ana awo.

Abambo amene amasiya mabanja awo, atate amene sawona ana awo kawirikawiri chifukwa cha kusudzulana, ndipo atate amene ali otanganitsidwa ndipo alibe chochita pang’ono kapena alibe chochita ndi kulera ana awo ali ofala.
Bambo amadzuka molawirira, zimatenga ulendo wautali kukagwira ntchito, amanyamuka mochedwa, amatenga ulendo wautali kupita kunyumba, ndipo anafika kunyumba atatopa kwambiri. Amangofuna kuti adye chakudya chamadzulo, masukani pang'ono, ndi kukagona kuti abwereze zomwezo tsiku lotsatira. Nthawi ndi nthawi, amadziuza kuti mawa adzakhala ndi nthawi yambiri ndi ana ake.

“Koma Asilamu sali choncho,” inu mukuti.

Mwina.

Kodi mumathera nthawi yochuluka bwanji ndi ana anu pa tsiku? Osati m’nyumba imodzi yokha, koma pamodzi – pamodzi kwenikweni.

Nyimbo yotchuka ya ku America ya Harry Chapin ikufotokoza nkhani yomvetsa chisoni ya mnyamata yemwe nthawi zonse amayesa kukhala ndi abambo ake, koma nthawi zonse amamupeza ali wotanganidwa kwambiri. Pamene mnyamatayo akukula ndipo atate amakula, bambo nthawi zonse amafuna kucheza ndi mwana wake, koma mwana wake nthawi zonse amakhala ndi zinthu zina.

Nthaŵi yabwino yothera pakati pa atate ndi ana ake ili yofunika kwa onse aŵiri kholo ndi ana. Anawo ayenera kudziwa kuti bambo awo amawakonda komanso amawasamalira, ndipo atate ayenera kusamala kuti asatayitse unansi wake ndi ana ake mwa kunyalanyaza.

Malangizo Okulitsa Ubale wa Bambo ndi Mwana

Pali njira zingapo zomwe bambo angagwiritsire ntchito nthawi yabwino ndi ana ake ndi kukulitsa ubale wawo. Ngakhale ali wotanganidwa kwambiri, mwina akhoza kumasula nthawi yokwanira yochitira zina mwa zinthu zimenezi.

*Sonyezani ana anu m’njira zosavuta kuti mumawakonda.

Abambo ena amayesetsa kukopa ana awo mwa kuwapatsa mphatso m’malo mongodzipereka okha. Izi zitha kuvulaza kwambiri kuposa zabwino. Chitsanzo chosavuta cha Mtumiki Muhammad ndi chabwino kwambiri, mtendere ndi madalitso a Allah zikhale pa iye. Pamene mwana wake Fatima (Mulungu asangalale naye) adzabwera kwa iye, Mneneri adali kuimirira, kumpsompsona, gwira dzanja lake, ndi kumupatsa mpando wake. Kenako m'moyo, chikondi chaumwini chimenechi chidzakhala chosaiŵalika kwambiri kwa ana kuposa kulandira mphatso imene aliyense akanawapatsa.

*Uzani kapena werengani nkhani za ana anu mausiku ena asanagone.

Pali nkhani zambiri zachisilamu zabwino komanso mabuku omwe mungagwiritse ntchito, kapena mukhoza kupanga nokha. Nthawi yomweyo, mukhala mukuthandiza ana anu kukhala ndi chikhalidwe cha Chisilamu. SoundVision imagulitsa mabuku ambiri a ana achisilamu. Kupotoza lingaliro ili ndikufunsa ana anu kuti apange nkhani zoti azikuuzani.

*Sewerani ndi ana anu nthawi zina.

Mutha kusewera mpira, zithunzi zamitundu, kumanga nyumba zoseweretsa kuchokera ku midadada, kapena kuchita chilichonse chimene akufuna.

*Lolani ana anu akuthandizeni ndi ntchito zosavuta.

Aloleni kuti akuthandizeni kunyamula mu golosale, kupanga chakudya chamadzulo, kapena kutchetcha bwalo. Nthawi zambiri ana amasangalala kwambiri akamachita zinthu zimene akuluakulu amaona kuti ndi ntchito.

*Tengani banja lanu kukasangalala.

Muzicheza ndi ana anu mukusewera Frisbee, kudutsa mpira, kapena kuwathamangitsa m'mapapo. Ana anu adzasangalala ndi nthawi yapadera imeneyi monga banja.

*Thandizani ana anu kulemba homuweki.

Asonyezeni kuti mumakondadi maphunziro ndi moyo wawo mwa kuwafunsa zomwe anachita kusukulu ndi kuyang’ana m’mabuku awo, ntchito, ndi ntchito nawo.

*Muzidya osachepera kawiri pamlungu monga banja.

*Gwiritsani ntchito nthawi yoyendetsa galimoto ndi ana anu.

Osamangoyatsa nkhani ndikuyiwala ana anu akakhala nawe mgalimoto. Kambiranani nawo kapena kuchita nthabwala, kapena kuimba limodzi nyimbo zachisilamu.

*Muzisambitsa ana anu ang'onoang'ono nthawi zina.

Nthawi zambiri, amayi amasambitsa ana, koma nthawi yosamba ndi mwayi wabwino kwambiri woti abambo azikhala ndi ana awo. Aloleni aziwombera mozungulira ndikusewera mochuluka kuposa momwe amayi amachitira.

*Aphunzitseni ana anu kupanga wudhu ndikupemphera nanu limodzi.

Ngati kunyumba, kupemphera limodzi ngati banja Jamat kuli bwino kuposa kupemphera wekha. Ana amakonda kutcha azan. Pangani wamng'ono kwambiri kukhala woyang'anira salat kunyumba, kusamalira makapu a pemphero, nthawi, ndi kuyitanira aliyense ku salat.

*Tengani ana anu ku nzikiti pamodzi ndi inu.

Iyi ndi njira yabwino kwambiri yopangira ubale ndi iwo monga abambo komanso Asilamu.

*Khalani opezeka kwa ana anu, ndipo adziwitseni kuti mulipo pa chilichonse chomwe akufuna kukambirana.

Ngati mulibe kulankhula ndi ana anu, winawake mwinamwake adzakhala, ndipo akhoza kukhala munthu wolakwika. Njira yabwino yodziwira bwino ana anu monga aliyense payekha ndiyo kuwatulutsa mmodzimmodzi kuti akadye, kukambirana, kapena chochitika china.

*Yesetsani kulankhula ndi mwana wanu, osati kwa iye.

Popeza kuti atate kaŵirikaŵiri amakhala ndi thayo lalikulu la kulanga ana, nkwapafupi kwa atate kungokhala olamulira m’malo mwa makolo ndi mabwenzi a ana awo. Khalani ndi nthawi yomvetsera, m'malo molankhula.

Tili ndi mwayi umodzi wokha wokhala ndi ana athu asanakule. Ngati tikufuna kuti azitikonda komanso kutilemekeza tikakalamba, tiyenera kumanga maubwenzi amenewo ali achichepere.

Abambo nthawi zambiri sakhala ndi nthawi yoperekera ana awo momwe amayi amakhala. Koma ngati tipanga nthawi yochepa yomwe tili ndi ana athu kukhala nthawi yabwino, tithabe kupanga maubale okhalitsa ndi iwo nthawi isanathe.
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