Ko Hono Fakahā ʻo e Ngaahi Fakapulip, Ko e Tefitoʻi Fili ʻi he Moʻui Fakamali

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Ko e fiefia ʻo e nofo-malí ko e fakaʻānaua ia ʻa e taʻahine kotoa pē ʻoku kau maí pea mo e taumuʻa ʻa e uaifi kotoa pē. Ko ha misi mo ha taumuʻa ia ʻoku taau ke tau ngāueʻi hotau tukuingata ke aʻusiá. Ke utu e ngaahi fua ʻo e ngaahi ngāue ko ʻení, ʻoku totonu ke tau ʻiloʻi ʻa e ngaahi fehalaaki mo e ngaahi fili ʻoku nau fakamanamanaʻi kinautolú. Ko e tokotaha potó ʻa e tokotaha ʻokú ne ako mei he meʻa ʻoku aʻusia ʻe he niʻihi kehé. ʻOku lahi ha ngaahi ʻapi ʻoku ʻikai ke nau fiefia ʻi he fiefia ko ʻeni ʻi he nofo-malí, neongo kuo fai ʻe he ngaahi malí honau lelei tahá ke aʻusia ia. Kuo hoko ʻeni koeʻuhí he naʻa nau fai ha ngaahi fehālaaki naʻe taʻeʻaonga ai ʻenau feingá. Ke maluʻi hoʻo fiefiá, tokanga telia ʻa e ngaahi fehālaaki ko ʻení pea fakaʻehiʻehi mei he ngaahi filí.

Ko e taha ʻo e gravest blunders ko e ʻ fakaha ʻo e ngaahi fakapulipuli ʻ. Ko e ngaahi fakapulipuli fakafāmilí ko ha falala ia ʻoku totonu ke fakatolonga. ʻOku hanga ʻe heʻene taʻetokanga ki hono fakatolonga ʻo e falala ko ʻeni ʻo ʻai ke mole e falala ʻa ha taha mei hono husepaniti. Ko ia ai, tokanga telia hono ʻai e ngaahi meʻalilo ʻo homou ʻapí ke hoko ko e tefito ʻo hoʻomou talanoa pe lea faka-lotó ʻo hangē ko hoʻo fakakaukaú. ʻOua naʻá ke pehē ʻe tauhi ʻe ho kaungāmeʻá hoʻo fakapulipulí ʻa ia he ʻikai ke ke lava ʻo tauhi ai koe.

ʻUluaki mo muʻomuʻa tahá, tauhi e ngaahi meʻalilo ʻo homou ʻapí fakalūkufua, kae tautautefito ki hoʻo ngaahi fetuʻutaki vāofi mo ho husepānití, fie maʻu ʻi he Shareeʻah pea ko e konga ia hoʻo lotu ʻi he ʻAlia Māfimafí. ʻI ha Hadeeth ʻi he mafai ʻo ʻAsamaá’ bint Yazeed, naʻá ne pehē naʻe ʻi ai ha taimi naʻá ne tangutu fakataha ai mo e Palōfitá [p] lolotonga e ʻi ai ʻa e houʻeiki tangatá mo fafiné pea mo e Palōfitá [p] naʻe pehe ʻe: “Mahalo ʻoku lea ʻaki ʻe ha tangata ʻa e meʻa ʻokú ne fai mo hono uaifí [ki he niʻihi kehé] pea mahalo ʻoku lea ʻaki ʻe ha fefine ʻa e meʻa ʻokú ne fai mo hono husepānití.” Naʻe fakalongolongo pe ʻa e kakai. ʻAsa’ peá ne pehē mai leva, “ʻIo, Talafekau ʻa ʻIsaah, ʻoku fai ia ʻe he houʻeiki tangatá mo fafiné.” Naʻa ne pehe: “ʻOua naʻá ke fai ʻeni. [Ke fai ia] ʻo hange ia ʻoku fetaulaki ha tevolo tangata mo ha tevolo fefine ʻi he hala pea ʻoku ne fetuʻutaki fakasekisuale mo ia lolotonga ia ʻoku siofi kinautolu ʻe he kakai.”

ʻOku Lahi Ange Hono Kovi ʻi Hono Lelei

ʻOmi fakamamafaʻi ʻa e foʻi moʻoni ko ia ko e talanoa loto-ki he-loto ʻo e uaifi mo ia (fefine) ngaahi kaungāmeʻá mo fakahā ʻene ngaahi fakapulipuli ʻi ʻapí ʻoku meimei ke lahi ange ʻene hohaʻá ʻi he fakafiemālié. Ko e moʻoni te ne ongoʻi fiemālie fakataimi mo fiemālie he taimi pē ko iá, ka ʻe puleʻi ia ʻe he hohaʻá ʻi he taimi ʻe mafola ai ʻa e ngaahi fakapulipuli ko ʻení peá ne utu ʻa e fakaʻiseʻisá mo e molé. ʻOku ʻikai ha tangata ʻe fiefia ʻi hono fakahaaʻi e ngaahi fakapulipuli ʻo ʻene moʻui fakamali. Naʻe fakatokanga ʻa Umaamah bint Al-Haarith ki heʻene tama fefine ki he meʻa ni (kimuʻa hono pō malí) ʻi heʻene faleʻi ʻiloa ʻi heʻene pehe, “…Kapau te ke fakaha ʻene fakapulipuli, he ʻikai te ke hao mei hono lavakiʻi…”

ʻOku Kehekehe ʻa e Ngaahi Meʻa Fakapulipulí mo e Ngaahi Tuʻunga Kehekehé

ʻOku ʻikai ke fuʻu mahuʻinga tatau ʻa e ngaahi fakapulipuli ʻo e ʻapí. ʻOku ʻi ai ha ngaahi fakapulipuli fekauʻaki mo e fetuʻutaki fakafoʻituitui ʻi he vahaʻa ʻo e ongomeʻa malí, ʻa ia ʻoku totonu ke nau tauhi maʻanautolu pē. Naʻa tau lave kimuʻa ki he fakatokanga ʻa e Palōfitá, , ki hono fakahā ʻo e ngaahi fakapulipuli peheé.

ʻOku ʻi ai ha ngaahi fakapulipuli ʻoku fekauʻaki mo e ngaahi faikehekehe ʻi he ongomeʻa malí. Ko hono fakaha ʻo e ngaahi fakapulipuli pehee ʻoku totonu ke fakatatau ia ki heʻenau kalavite. Ko e uaifi potó ʻa e tokotaha ʻokú ne tauhi ʻa e ngaahi meʻalilo ko ʻení peá ne fakahā pē ʻa e ngaahi meʻa ʻe tokoni ki hono fakaleleiʻi ʻo e palopalemá. Neongo ia, ʻoku ʻikai totonu ke ne fakahā ia ki hono ngaahi kaungāmeʻá pe kāingá; ka, ʻoku totonu ke ne fakahā ia kiate kinautolu ʻokú ne tui ʻoku fakapotopoto mo malava ke maʻu ʻa e faleʻi fakalangi ʻo hangē ko ia ʻoku fakahā mai ʻi he vēsí ʻa ia ʻoku pehē ai ʻe ʻAllaahā ko e Māfimafí (ko e hā hono ʻuhingá): {Pea kapau te ke manavahē ki he fekeʻikeʻi ʻi he vahaʻa ʻo e ongo meʻá ni, ʻave ha fakaʻilonga mei hono kakai pea mo ha ngaahi meʻa naʻe hoko mei hono kakai. Kapau ʻokú na fakatou fie maʻu ʻa e Fakaleleí, ʻE fakatupu ia ʻe ʻAsaah ʻi hona vahaʻá. Ko e moʻoni, ʻOku ʻIloʻi mo Maheni Maʻu pē ʻa ʻIsaah [ʻaki ʻa e ngaahi meʻa kotoa pē].} [Quran 4:35] Neongo ia, ʻoku ʻikai totonu ke fakavaveʻi ʻe he uaifí ke ne fai ia ʻi he taimi pē ʻoku hoko ai ha palopalemá pe ʻi he taimi ʻoku hoko ai ha kiʻi palopalema siʻisiʻi. ʻOku lahi ha ngaahi palopalema ʻoku ʻikai fie maʻu ke kaunoa ai ha taha; ka, ʻoku nau fie maʻu ha poto mo ha faʻa kātaki ʻi he tafaʻaki ʻa e uaifí.

ʻOku pehē ʻe ha faʻē,

“Naʻe mali hoku ʻofefiné he taʻu ʻe hongofulu kuo hilí, pea naʻe ʻikai ke ne teitei lāunga kiate au pe ko e tamai ʻa hono husepānití. Naʻá ne fakamatala pē kiate au fekauʻaki mo ha palopalema ʻi he taimi naʻe fakaleleiʻi aí. Ko ʻene kole pe, ʻi he taimi ʻokú ne fehangahangai ai mo ha palopalemá, ko e kole mai ke u kole tāumaʻu kia ʻAllaah Ko e ʻOtua Māfimafí koeʻuhí ko ia, pea ko ia ʻoku ou ʻiloʻi ai ʻokú ne fehangahangai mo ha palopalema ʻi he taimi ʻokú ne kole mai ai ke u kole fakamātoato ki ʻIsaahā ko e ʻOtua Māfimafí maʻana.”

ʻOku ʻi ai ha ngaahi fakapulipuli ʻoku fekauʻaki mo e ngaahi meʻa fakafoʻituitui ʻo e falé. ʻOku ʻikai totonu foki ke fakahā ʻa e ngaahi fakapulipuli peheé koeʻuhí ke ʻoua naʻa hoko ʻa e fāmilí ko ha tohi fakaava ʻi he ʻao ʻo e kakai kehé. ʻOku Folofola ʻa ʻAllaahā ʻOku Folofola ʻa e Māfimafí (ko e hā hono ʻuhingá): {ʻOku ʻomi ʻe ʻIsaah ha sīpinga ʻo kinautolu ʻoku taʻetui: ko e uaifi ʻo Noohí [Noa] mo e uaifi ʻo Kaihaʻasí [Lote]. Naʻá na siʻi hifo ʻi he toko ua ʻo ʻEtau kau tamaioʻeiki angatonú ka naʻá na lavakiʻi kinaua.}[Quran 66:10] Niʻihi ʻo e kau mataotao fakaʻatamai ʻo e Tafseer (Talanoa fakaʻofoʻofa Faka-Quranic) fakamatala ʻi he veesi ko ʻeni ʻo pehe ʻoku ʻuhinga ʻa e lavakiʻi heni naʻe fakaʻaongaʻi ʻe he uaifi ʻo Noo ke fakaha ʻene ngaahi meʻalilo. Kapau ʻe tui ha taha kia Nooh te ne fakaha ia ki he kau anga fakamalohi taʻetui. ʻI he taimi naʻe maʻu ai ʻe Loote ha kau fakaafe, ʻe tala ʻe hono uaifí ki he kakai angakovi ʻo e faʻahinga naʻa nau fai ʻa e ngaahi ngāue koví (sodomy) koeʻuhí ke nau lava ʻo ʻalu ki he kau fakaafe ko ʻení ʻo fakahoko ʻenau ngaahi tōʻonga angaʻulí mo kinautolu.

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