Ukuphucula Ukuziphatha Kwabantwana kukuziphucula

Ubalise uAbu Musa (Radi-Allahu anhu): “Abanye abantu babuza uMprofeti (pbuh) “Okabani ubuSilamsi bobona bugqwesileyo? o.k. (ongumSilamsi olungileyo kakhulu?” Uphendule watsho, “Umntu okuphepha ukwenzakalisa amaSilamsi ngolwimi nangezandla zakhe. ¹

Njengomama, siphezu kwabantwana bethu. Sinoxanduva lokubakhulisa. Kwaye banyanzelekile ukuba basithobele ngaphandle kokuba sibayalela ukuba benze ububi. Kodwa kunini siva ngoyena uphetheyo ukuxhaphaza lowo aphetheyo?

Kulula ukukhupha izinto ezisikhathazayo, imini embi okanye ezinye iingxaki kubantwana bethu . . . abanakuzinceda, ubuthathaka kwaye uxhomekeke kuthi. Kodwa ngamaxesha ethu eenkathazo, kufuneka sikhumbule ukuba banelungelo kuthi. NgoMhla woMgwebo, akukho mntu uya kuzikhathaza ngonina, utata, udade okanye umzalwana. Wonke umntu uya kuzama ukuzisindisa. Asifuni ukuba abantwana bethu babe ngabo baya kuthabatha kwizenzo zethu ezilungileyo ngenxa yokuba sibaphathe kakubi. Xa silungisa abantwana bethu ngokungaziphathi kakuhle, kufuneka siqiniseke ukuba siyabanika amalungelo abo

Nanga amacebiso ambalwa ngendlela yokulawula uMcaphuko xa uqeqesha abantwana bakho

“Owu nina bakholwayo! Ukuzila ukutya kumiselwe kuni njengoko bekumiselweyo kwabo bangaphambi kwenu, ukuze wena (funda) ukuzeyisa.” (Quran, Al Baqarah, 2: 183)

1.Ukuzila ukutya

ISawm yenye yeendlela ezilungileyo zokufunda ukuzeyisa. Oku kuzithiba kuphuphuma kwiinkalo ezininzi zobomi bethu bemihla ngemihla. Enye yezo nkalo kukukhulisa abantwana. Nangona ukuphepha ukutya ngamanye amaxesha kunokubeka umntu emngciphekweni, ikwanayo nefuthe lokuthomalalisa. Sidla ngokuthotywa ngakumbi xa isisu singagcwali. Ukwengeza, xa sizila ukutya sikhuthazwa ukuba siphephe ingxabano kunye neengxabano. Uninzi lwethu luqhelene ne hadith ethi, ukuba kukho umntu ozakulwa okanye axambulisane nawe, kufuneka utsho, ‘Ndiyazila ukutya.’.

2. Funda ngoMprofeti wethu (pbuh)

Enye indlela yokufunda ukuzeyisa xa uqeqesha kukufunda ngeendlela zoMprofeti (pbuh) wajongana nabantwana. Sifanele simsebenzise njengomzekelo wethu. Nali ibali elikhuthaza ngokwenene elibonisa indlela esifanele sibaqeqeshe ngayo abantwana bethu.

Wathi uAnas ibn Malik, “Umprofeti (pbuh) wayenesimo sengqondo esihle phakathi kwabantu. Ngenye imini wandithuma kwi errand ndathi, ‘NgoAllah, Andiyi kuhamba,’ kodwa kwakusengqondweni yam ukuba ndiya kwenza njengoko uMprofeti wayendiyalele. Ndihambe de ndabona abanye abantwana bedlala estratweni. Emva koko uMprofeti (pbuh) wafika wandibona wandibamba ngomva wentamo emva. Xa ndimjonga, ebencumile, watsho, 'Hayi (Igama likaAnas), ubuyile apho bendikucele khona?' Ndithe, ‘Owu uMthunywa ka-Allah, Ewe, Ndiyahamba.'"
Qaphela apho uAnas athethe khona, “Andiyi kuhamba” xa uMprofeti (pbuh) wamcela ukuba enze into? Kwakungekho kukhupha ibhanti okanye ukukhangela intonga ukuze uAnas azi ukuba ngubani umphathi apha. Masinqwenele ukuba nomonde, ububele, kwaye sinyamezele xa abantwana bethu bebonisa iintsilelo zabo.

3. Umvuzo womonde

Kwakhona, camngca ngendlela ekubaluleke ngayo ukuba nomonde, hayi nje umntwana wakho kodwa wena.

Abu Sa'id Al-Khudri (ngaphandle) ingxelo ukuba: Abantu abathile kwii-Ansar babuza uMthunywa ka-Allah (pbuh) wabanika; Babuya ke bambuza, wabanika, yada yathamba yonke into abenayo. Emva koko uMprofeti (pbuh) watsho, “Nabuphi na ubutyebi endinabo, andiyi kunivimba;. Nabani na obeya kuba nyulu yaye uthozamile; UAllh Uya kumgcina enyulu kwaye ethozamile kwaye nabani na ofuna ukwanelisa, UAllh Uya kumenza akwazi ukuzimela; kwaye nabani na onokunyamezela, UAllh Uya kumnika umonde, yaye akukho bani unikwa isipho esilunge ngakumbi nesipheleleyo kunomonde”. ²

Abantwana bethu baphuma emizimbeni yethu, kodwa zisisipho esivela kuAllh. Enye indlela esinokubonisa ngayo ukuba nombulelo ngezipho zethu esizithandayo kukuba nobubele nokuxolela xa besenza iimpazamo yaye singakwenzi oko sikulindeleyo.. Siyathandaza kwaye siyathemba ukuba u-Allah uya kwenza okufanayo nakuthi.