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Abo basebukhweni basoloko befumana ushicilelo olubi kwiinkqubo ezininzi zenkcubeko ezingenanxaxheba kubuSilamsi. Andazi ngokwenene ukuba abantwana banokukhula njani ngaphandle kweTV, udibanisa njani into efunwa lusapho lwakho nale uyifunayo? Ulukhulisa njani ubudlelwane obuhle kunye nabazala obuya kukunika uxolo kunye nemvisiswano ebomini bakho?
Le yenye indawo yamaSilamsi ehlala ingahoywa - ngakumbi kuluntu lwaseMzantsi Asia apho kubonwa njengento eqhelekileyo ukuba oomolokazana bahlale nosapho lomyeni kwaye ekugqibeleni bancede babakhathalele.. Ayikho enye inkcubeko ehambisana nalo mkhwa, kanti kwinkcubeko yama-Arabhu, isiko ukuba indoda ithengele umfazi wayo oza kuba ngumfazi wakhe ikhaya KUQALA phambi kokuba batshate ukuze abe nendawo abiza kuyo..
uThixo (SWT) utsho:
“Amadoda ngabakhuseli nabagcini bamabhinqa, kuba uAllh Uyenze enye yazo yadlula enye, kwaye ngenxa yokuba bachitha (ukubaxhasa) ngamandla abo. ”…
[al-Nisa' 4:34]
Nokuba ungowayiphi na inkcubeko, ubunyani bemeko yeyokuba ukutshata ngokuqinisekileyo kuthetha ukusebenzisana nabasemzini wakho kwinqanaba elikhulu okanye elingaphantsi. Ke umbuzo apha ngowokuba kufuneka asebenze njani amaSilamsi ajongane nabasebukhweni?
Ngawaphi amalungelo noxanduva onalo malunga nabasebukhweni bakho kwaye ngawaphi amalungelo noxanduva abanalo phezu kwakho? Ujongana njani nomba wobukhwekhwe abangenelela kuzo zonke iinkalo zobomi bakho, kwaye kwenzeka ntoni xa ukukhuliswa kwabantwana kuphonswa kumxube?
Ithini kanye kanye iSilamsi ngendima yomolokazana? Ngaba ngenene kufuneka bajonge abasebukhweni babo okanye sisithethe nje esi? Kwaye okokugqibela, kufuneka wenze ntoni xa abasebukhweni bakho bekwi-aqeedah eyahlukileyo kwaye banyanzelisa ukubandakanya okanye ukunyanzeliswa 'zenkolo' ethile kuwe.?
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Assalam Alikum
mhlekazi, ndingathanda ukwabelana ngamava am buqu ebukhweni. ndingumntu wasepakistani , usapho lwamaSilamsi. xa ndanditshatile , umyeni wam x ebephumile epakistan, bendihlala no mazala wam , Mhlekazi andinawo amazwi okuchaza , indlela ababendiphethe ngayo abazala bam, x umamazala wam , ngenkani wandenza isicaka sendlu 24 hrs, bendihlala ndibathanda oonyana bakhe nentombi yakhe, xa ndikhulelwe wayesoloko endiphatha ngathi andiyonto ngaphandle kwesilwanyana ukusebenza nokusebenzela umninawa wam., ngaphezu koko wandixelela ngenkani ukuba ndityikitye amaphepha esitampu ukuba ndingandwendweli omama ekhaya , kwaye ndisayine amaphepha esitampu kwaye ndimthembise ukuba ndiya kuhlala ndisenza yonke imisebenzi yasekhaya yonke imihla., zange waziva ukuba ndingumntu, bendinomntwana esiswini , Nam ndidinga sum rest sum luv, umyeni wam ebephesheya, my inlaws r so cruel that they forforfully stop communication between me nomyeni wam, kwaye emva kwexesha looooong lenkohlakalo kunye nezenzo ezigwenxa umamazala wam ekugqibeleni wandigxotha ekhaya., wandixelela ukuba awuyontombi esiyikhethele unyana wethu,awumhle, Ubisi lwakho alumnandi, umntwana wakho akaluthandi ubisi lwakho, u frm usapho oluhluphekayo, ngoko ke sishiye, kwaye uphume endlwini yam, ibingumfazi onebhongo kakhulu, umyeni wakhe(x utatazala wam) ukwaphesheya . I tried alot to communication my x husband kodwa wandixelela ukuba uzoyenza lento ibithethwa ngumama wakhe so good bye nd dnt call me again.. ndiyamcela ngenyembezi ukuba plz ndenzele inceba, ukuba ndifuna ukuhlala nawe, plz ndingenise phesheya kodwa wala. Ekugqibeleni i-inlaws yam yandigxotha ekhaya. inlaws r ukhohlakele kakhulu, bachitha ubomi bam bonke.
Ndiyakwazi ukucinga into oye wadlula kuyo kwaye kufuneka nditsho ukuba oku kuqhelekile ePakistan. Nditshate kakhulu nendoda yasePakistani, nangona kunjalo, Khange ndibenawo amava anje ndimbona ukuba akalunganga kwaye ndimshiya engaphantsi 3 kwiinyanga emva komtshato wethu. Nangona kunjalo, ngexesha elifutshane lomtshato wam, ndabona indlela abamzalayo ababemphethe ngayo umfazi ka x umyeni wam. Ngokwenene bamenza ikhoboka kwaye umyeni akenzanga nto ukukhusela umfazi wakhe (ngoku x-umfazi).
Uluvo lwam lobuqu lwelokuba abalandeli oko kufunwa lunqulo kodwa balandela oko kubonakala kulungile kubo.
Ndicinga ukuba kubhetele ukuba ungabi kunye nomyeni wakho njengoko kum umyeni olungileyo uya kumkhusela aze amnyamekele umfazi wakhe nabantwana babo ebubini nasebubini..
Ndiyathandaza ku-Allah ukuba akunike amandla kunye nolonwabo nokuba kunye okanye ngaphandle komyeni wakho njengoko uthando lokugqibela alukho emntwini kodwa ku-Allah.. Funa isikhokelo sakhe kwaye ndiqinisekile ukuba uyakuyiva inceba yakhe kwaye akunikeze ngesakinah.
Ndiyabulisa,
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Assalam Alaykum,
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Assalamualaikum , Kutheni kufuneka ukuba udade onobubele ongumSilamsi abe nomonde xa umyeni wakhe emthuka okanye emhlukumeza ngokwasemzimbeni, isihloko esihle kakhulu osiphetheyo, n m sure abt yonke imizekelo oyinikeyo iyinyani ngokufanelekileyo. Kodwa kuthekani ngemithetho engafuni ukuba umtshakazi abasebenzele, ngolonwabo olukhulu babavumela ukuba babe nendlu eyahlukileyo kwaye bangafuni ukuba abe likhoboka…kodwa bafuna nje ukuba ne-akhlaaq elungileyo njengokuncuma nomamazala(ngubani ofuna umolokazana) okanye ukubuza ngempilo kamamazala wakho, intlanganiso nge-Eid, ukwamkela isimemo sesidlo esivela kwimithetho yakho, ukuchola iingqondo zabo… ngamaxesha athile!!!!
Abanye abatshakazi bangamaMuslim amahle kakhulu kodwa abafuni kwanto yakwenza nomthetho…Ngokuqinisekileyo bathumela umyeni kusapho lwakhe ngayo yonke into… kodwa akazange ngokwakhe!!! ilungile loo nto??!!1
ndiyikhangele inetha, kodwa yonke into endiyifumeneyo kukuba umolokazana uphathwa kakubi ngamalungelo akhe kwimisebenzi yakhe… wat abt amalungelo emithetho(ingakumbi abazali)okanye ubuncinci iinjongo zabo zothando ezinyulu nolindelo!!!
kwimithetho kunokuba kuhle kakhulu…
Abantu kufuneka baqonde ukuhlala kunye nemithetho kukhuthazwa kakhulu. Lo mkhuba awuveli kwi-sunnah ngoko ndiyathemba ukuba u-Shiekh Musleh Khan uthetha ngokuchasene nalo mkhuba wokubuyela emva nokuba bangaphi abantu abacaphukisayo.. Akufunekanga sikhulise iintombi zethu okanye oodade bethu kwiSilamsi ukuba babe ngamakhoboka kumthetho wabo. AYIYOndlela yomprofeti wethu, uxolo lube phezu kwenu. Yeka ukulandela amaHindu.
UMthunywa ka-Allah (iinyanga kunqulo luka-Allah SWT) watsho, “Kulumkele ukungena kumanenekazi.” Yatsho indoda yakwa-Ansar, “UMpostile ka-Allah! Kuthekani ngo-Al-Hamu abasebukhweni bomfazi (abazalwana bomyeni wakhe okanye abatshana bakhe njl.)?” UMprofeti (iinyanga kunqulo luka-Allah SWT) waphendula: Umyeni womfazi kukufa ngokwako. Sahih al-Bukhari 5232. Ukuphulula amalungu esini yeyona nto ilula kangangokuba uninzi lwethu lukhetha oko 67, Hadith 165
Nditshatile for 18 iminyaka ngoku ndingum-british kunye nomyeni wam. Sihlala kweyethu indlu its been three years ngoku. Umyeni wam ufuna abazali bakhe bazohlala nathi kodwa mna andiqondi njengoko ndiyazi ukuba kuya kubangela iingxaki ezininzi. Ndifuna nje ukwazi kwi-islam ukuba ndinelungelo lokuthi hayi okanye ngaba inlaws yam luxanduva lwam.