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Orisun: muslimvillage.com

by Mariam Nihal
Orisun: ArabNews.com
JEDDAH: Many youngsters in the Kingdom have told Arab News that men who are unfit to be a good parent should refrain from having children in the first place. They said weak parenting is the main cause of depression and substance abuse for children.

Omar Ali, a 27-year-old sales manager in Jeddah, told Arab News he feels most men who are too busy preaching and lecturing others about life and religion end up having the most troubled children.

“God never said live in a mosque and ignore your children. Awọn eniyan wọnyi gbagbọ pe wọn le lọ lakoko ti wọn n dibọn pe wọn jẹ olododo ti ara ẹni nigbati otitọ ba jẹ pe wọn ti fọ awọn ile ati awọn ọmọde ti o korira wọn., lati so ooto. Mo ti rii ni ọpọlọpọ igba pupọ. ”

O lero pe o ṣe pataki lati tẹle ẹsin ju lati sọrọ nipa rẹ. O wọpọ ni Saudi Arabia fun ọpọlọpọ awọn tọkọtaya ti n ṣiṣẹ lati bẹwẹ awọn alamọdaju tabi awọn iranṣẹbinrin ile lati tọju awọn ọmọ wọn.

“Ti o ba jẹ ọkunrin ti o nšišẹ ati pe iṣẹ rẹ jẹ pataki rẹ lẹhinna maṣe da idile kan ki o foju kọ wọn silẹ. Ọlọrun ko fun ọ ni ẹtọ lati ṣere pẹlu igbesi aye ẹnikan,” Anam Majdi sọ, a 26 odun-atijọ akeko ngbe ni Jeddah, so fun Arab News.

Gẹgẹbi ijabọ ti a tẹjade tẹlẹ ni Arab News, Saudi Arabia ni 1.2 milionu Indonesian ṣiṣẹ ni Saudi Arabia, ti eyi ti lori 70 percent are domestic helpers.

Salwa Zahid, a 25-year-old marketing sales manager in Jeddah, said parents who do not have time for their children do not realize the impact of poor parenting and should rather not have children.

“Why have children when you don’t have time for them? Especially five kids when you cannot sit with one of them at least once a day.” She said parents negate the fact that children will fall prey to negative influences when ignored. “Be it choosing the wrong company or wrong ways to deal with depression.” Salwa said most maids raise children in the Kingdom, especially when both parents are working.

“This negatively impacts the morale of a child and they often grow up looking for friends or any outsider who is willing to listen. My friend calls his nanny mom rather than his mother because she practically raised him up,” o fi kun.

Forty-eight-year-old, a mother of four Najla Amri told Arab News the government should take steps to educate Saudi men and women to understand the real essence of parenting.

“It is not for convenience or to prove something. Most women get the impression having more kids means they are granted a greater honor in society. I feel like it is a competition to see who can have more. While some parents feel they are ensuring more children will be around when they grow old to take care of them.”

Somayya Chabez (name changed), a writer living in Jeddah, said she would rather check herself into an old age home or hire someone to look after her. “I would not have children look after me, Olorun ma je. That is not the purpose of child birth,” o fi kun.

Rana Ismail, a 22-year-old medical student living in Jeddah, said she has seen many instances in public where fathers smoke in front of their children or sit idle at cafes looking at other women even if their children are crying for attention.

“A child is a great blessing, a source of goodness and can benefit you in this world and the Hereafter. Men who do not understand this and mistreat their children really anger me. I wish there was a rule and law that states if you cannot raise your child with love and care then don’t have them.”

Rana lero pe awọn obi kọ ojuṣe wọn si awọn ọmọde lakoko ti Islam kọni bibẹẹkọ.

"Awọn baba ti ko lo akoko ti o peye pẹlu awọn ọmọ wọn ti wọn si kọ ẹtọ wọn silẹ ko ni ẹtọ lati beere lọwọ awọn ọmọde nipa awọn iṣẹ wọn si wọn.. Islam kọ awọn obi ni iṣẹ wọn ati pe ti o ba kuna lẹhinna maṣe bi awọn ọmọ rẹ lere. Kò bọ́gbọ́n mu àti aláìmọ́.”

Hamdan Ansari, 25-odun-atijọ ajùmọsọrọ, so fun Arab News: “Gegebi Hadith Anabi (Alafia fun u) wi ọkan ninu awọn marun eniyan ti o ti osi aiye yi, ṣugbọn awọn faili wọn ko tii tii ati pe a n san ere nigbagbogbo fun wọn, ni àwọn tí wọ́n fi ọmọ tó yẹ sílẹ̀ lẹ́yìn.”

Hamdan ni imọlara pe ọpọlọpọ awọn obi ti gbagbe pataki ati idi ti nini idile kan. “How can a father who works all week expect the children to love him when he does not have the time to sit down and talk to them about their lives? Then parents get angry when most kids want to go out and see their friends. O dara, at least their friends were there to listen to them when you were too busy with your job.

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Orisun: muslimvillage.com