Impi Enkulu Live: Thanda Umshado Vs Umshado WamaSulumane

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Umshado. Ibhola elidala neketango? Noma mhlawumbe usuku obululindile impilo yakho yonke. Mhlawumbe kukubonisa ukuthi ekugcineni uzinikele kumuntu okhethekile “omthandayo” okuhle noma okubi, ocebile noma ompofu (ngemva kweminyaka eminingi bezama ukuthola lowo mlingani ofanele, kanye “nokuhlola ukushayela” kubo!) Noma ukuze ube nolwazi lwakamuva - abantu bashada ngenxa yemali, noma ukungena emphakathini ophezulu. Noma mhlawumbe into oyesabayo ezokwenzeka kuwena. Noma ngabe yisiphi isizathu sakho sokushaywa, kunento eyodwa ekhathaza abantu ukwedlula umshado ngokwawo… uyohlala isikhathi esingakanani? Kuthiwani uma iphela? Futhi kuthiwani uma unezingane? Uzobakhulisa kanjani? Ngabe bazodlula kulo mjikelezo wokumosha, izidakamizwa, iziphuzo nobudlelwano obuphukile esadlula kubo? Akubonakali kuba kubi unyaka nonyaka?

Bacabanga ukuthi konke sekuphelile... manje.

Imishado ibonakala iphelile ngaphambi kokuthi iqale. Imindeni ephukile ivamile. IBrithani inenani eliphakeme kakhulu lomama abeve eshumini nambili emhlabeni. Kuyinto evamile ukubona umama osemusha ephusha inqola yakhe futhi ezama ukugibela ebhasini. Ingxenye yabantu abashadayo manje igcina ngesehlukaniso. Ngomphakathi ojaha inkululeko, ubuntu kanye nokufuna njalo ubulili obuphezulu - sithola ukuthi izindaba, ukulahlekelwa inzalo, imisebenzi kanye nomuzwa wokuthi “utshani buluhlaza ngaphesheya” kube yimbangela yokubhidlika kwemishado eminingi.. Yile mibono elimazayo eyimbangela yazo zonke lezi zinkinga. Le mibono isiqalile nokuthinta imindeni yamaSulumane - futhi singabona izinkinga ezifanayo zesehlukaniso, imindeni ephukile kanye nokukhulelwa kwentsha kukhuphuka minyaka yonke phakathi kwemindeni yamaSulumane. Ngakho-ke manje kungenzeka ukuthi intombazane ephusha i-pram ingudadewenu oyiSulumane. Into ayikona ukuzonda kuye, kodwa kungani lokhu kwenzeka? Kungani amaSulumane eqala ukucabanga ngendlela efanayo ngobudlelwano bawo? Ingabe i-Islam inayo indlela yokuvimbela lokhu?

Izinxushunxushu zomndeni.

Indaba yokuwohloka kwemindeni ngale ndlela inemiphumela emibi kakhulu - cabanga ngazo zonke izingane phakathi kwesehlukaniso esinesiphithiphithi noma ezikhule nomzali oyedwa kuphela.. Akugcini lapho, kodwa ukuhlukana komkhaya kunemiphumela ebanzi nelimaza kakhulu kuwo wonke umphakathi. Umbiko wamuva nje weBreakdown Britain mayelana nalolu daba uthi “amaphesenti angu-70 abantu abasha abenza amacala avela emikhayeni enomzali oyedwa futhi amazinga okuziphatha okuphambene nomphakathi kanye nobuhlongandlebe aphakeme ezinganeni ezivela emikhayeni ehlukene.. Izingane eziphuma ezindlini eziphukile 75% maningi amathuba okuthi bangaphumeleli emfundweni futhi lokho kuholela ezinkingeni zokuluthwa izidakamizwa nokwehluleka nokuthembela”.

Ukuyiqeda, umbiko wamuva nje we-UNICEF ubeke iBrithani njengezwe elibi kakhulu kwengane Emazweni Athuthukile. Izingane nazo zacelwa ukuthi zisho ukuthi zijabule yini. “I-U.K. zibalwa kabi ezicini ezifana nekhwalithi yobudlelwano, ukuziphatha, ezempilo nokuphepha, ngokombiko leli zwe linamazinga amabi kakhulu entsha edakwa nobuhlobo bobulili bentsha.”

Siyabona ukuthi ukuhlukana komndeni nekhaya kuye kwaholela ekubangeleni izinkinga ezikhona manje lapho intsha kulo mphakathi “wezinja ezidliwa yizinja” ibe isisulu sazo., kuhlanganise namaSulumane.

Ngakho intsha edakiwe, odlalayo futhi oqeda ngoJulie wakhe ungumkhiqizo womphakathi akhulele kuwo - umphakathi oguqula amantombazane amahle abe omama abangabodwa abakhulelwe nabafana abangenacala babe isibhamu kanye nentombazane ejaha izigebengu. Siwumkhiqizo wemvelo esenze - futhi ngaphandle kwabanamandla, othanda umndeni wamaSulumane nophelele sivulekele izici ezingezinhle zomphakathi ukuthi zibe abazali bethu bangempela - inkanuko, inkululeko, ukujaha imali, amaqembu ezigelekeqe kanye nemigwaqo… enabazali abanje kuyamangaza ukuthi intsha iphenduka ngale ndlela?

Umshado WamaSulumane.

Ingabe umshado wamaSulumane ungaxazulula zonke lezi zinkinga? Ake sicacise into eyodwa kuqala - amaSulumane awazona izingelosi. Futhi nje ngoba unamathela kumodeli yomshado wamaSulumane akusho ukuthi ngeke ube nezinkinga - kodwa njengomphakathi nomphakathi - imodeli yomshado wamaSulumane ivimbela izinkinga eziningi esizibona namuhla.. Lokhu kungenxa yokuthi emnyombweni wobudlelwano bamaSulumane, umshado kanye nekhaya yinkolelo yokuthi silapha ukuzokhonza uAllah uSomandla futhi ukubhekile konke esikwenzayo. I-Islam ingumthombo wendlela esibheka ngayo umhlaba, izinkinga zethu nezixazululo zethu. UNkulunkulu, owadala umuntu, uyasazi isintu (amadoda, abesifazane nezingane) okungcono kakhulu nokuthi yiziphi izinkinga esingaba nazo. U-Allah uyayazi imizwa, imizwa nemicabango esikwaziyo ukuyenza. Kungenxa yalokhu ukuthi u-Allah ungumthombo ongcono kakhulu wezixazululo zezinkinga zethu empilweni.

Ikhaya lenjabulo.

Pho i-Islam izixazulula kanjani lezi zinkinga? Well kunezinkinga eziningi ezahlukene ngakhoke izixazululo eziningi ezahlukene. Okokuqala kusendleleni i-Islam ebuka ngayo umshado kanye nayo yonke indaba yempilo yomndeni. Abantu abafisa ukushada, bangene kuwo bazi ubucayi besenzo abasazosithatha. Naku-Islam isehlukaniso asiyona into okufanele ithathwe kalula, kuyisinyathelo sokugcina. Zonke izenzo zeMuslim zenzelwa ukuthokozisa u-Allah futhi ngale ndaba yedivosi Umprofethi Muhammad (SAW) kusho: “Kuzo zonke izinto ezivunyelwe isehlukaniso yiyona ezondwa kakhulu uNkulunkulu.” futhi “Shada futhi ungahlukanisi, ngokuqinisekile isihlalo sobukhosi seNkosi enomusa siyazamazama ngenxa yesehlukaniso.” Ngakho ukuze athokozise uAllah, umSulumane wenza konke okusemandleni akhe ukuze ubudlelwano bakhe busebenze - ngakho uma lokhu kusho ukuthi kufanele azame kakhudlwana, noma ube nesineke kakhulu noma ufunde ukuthethelela kakhudlwana noma ube muhle - umSulumane uzozama konke okusemandleni akhe ukwenza kanjalo, ukuze sizame ukwenza ubudlelwano buhlale ndawonye futhi nifune injabulo kaAllah.

Futhi, ezinye izinto eziningi eziholela ekubhidlikeni komshado njengokubheka abanye abantu besifazane/abesilisa noma ukuba nezindaba njll. ziyavinjelwa njengoba indoda noma umfazi ongumSulumane azi ukuthi u-Allah ubhekile konke abakwenzayo. Ucansi ngaphandle komshado kuyisono esikhulu, futhi njengomuntu oqondayo umshado ukuphela kwendlela esemthethweni yokuthi indoda/owesifazane anelise izifiso zabo, kukhona nomunye emshadweni. Ukwesaba isijeziso sika-Allah kuvimbela amaSulumane ekwenzeni izinto eziyi-haram; njengokudlala ngothando nokuba nobudlelwano ngaphandle komshado. Kungale ndlela ukuthi izimbangela eziningi zokubhidlika kwemishado namuhla zivinjelwa emshadweni wamaSulumane.

Umndeni wamaSulumane yilowo okhuthazana ukuthi akhonze uAllah futhi abe nomthwalo wemfanelo futhi anakekelane. UMprofethi (SAW) wathi, “Yilowo nalowo kini ungumqaphi, futhi ngamunye wenu uzobuzwa ngalabo abaphethe. Indoda ingumqaphi mayelana nomndeni wayo, futhi uzobuzwa ngalabo abaphethe. Owesifazane ungumqaphi ngokuhlonipha umuzi womyeni wakhe, futhi uzobuzwa ngalokho ekunakekeleni kwakhe. Ngakho, yilowo nalowo kini ungumqaphi, futhi yilowo nalowo kini uyobuzwa ngabaphethe.” (Bukhari, Muslim). Lokhu kuwushintsha ngokuphelele umoya omusha nomndeni onawo. Kusukela ethi "akuyona inkinga yami", "Pho yini okumele uyenze ngami?” esimweni sengqondo lapho wonke umuntu enomthwalo wemfanelo ngomunye nomunye futhi enakekela abantu abangaphansi kwakhe. Lokhu bakwenza ngokusemandleni abo ngoba bayazi ukuthi u-Allah uzosibuza ukuthi sibabheke kahle kangakanani abantu esibaphethe - lokho kungaba umndeni wakho., izingane zakho, indlu yakho noma abafowenu nodadewenu abancane.

Futhi kuthiwani ngothando nenhlonipho emndenini wamaSulumane? Hhayi-ke, ngebhadi kwesinye isikhathi ngenxa yesiko lethu sibona inhlonipho nothando lugeleza ngandlela thize – lusuka kithi luye kubantu abadala. Kodwa i-Islam isifundisa ukuthi inhlonipho elinganayo nothando esihloselwe ukuba nalo emindenini yethu. Kwake kwafika indoda kuMprofethi uMuhammad (SAW) futhi wathi “Nginezingane eziyishumi futhi angikaze ngiqabule neyodwa yazo.” IsiThunywa sikaAllah (ukuthula kube kuye) wambuka wathi, “Ongenasihe ngeke ahawukelwe.” (Bukhari).

Bheka futhi indlela i-Islam efundisa ngayo umzali nezingane ukwenza; Aisha, umkaMprofethi (SAW) kusho, “Angizange ngibone muntu ofana kakhulu nesiThunywa sikaAllah, sengathi u-Allah angambusisa futhi amnikeze ukuthula, ngendlela yokukhuluma kunoFatima. Lapho efika kuye, wamsukumela, wamamukela, wamqabula wamhlalisa endaweni yakhe. Lapho uMprofethi efika kuye, wamsukumela, wathatha isandla sakhe, wamamukela, amqabule, wamhlalisa endaweni yakhe. Weza kuye ngesikhathi egula okokugcina futhi wabingelela futhi wamanga.” Singayibona ngeso lengqondo indlu lapho abasha nabadala bezama ukuba ngcono kakhulu ngokufudumele, onakekelayo, emamatheka, ukwamukela kanye nothando ukuze uthokozise uAllah?

Ngakho-ke i-Islam yenza umndeni ube into okufanele uzame ukulenza liqine njengetshe. Akuyona into enihlukana ngayo ningaqapheli ukuthi u-Allah akamthandi kangakanani lowo owenza lokho. Umndeni wamaSulumane ngomunye owenza wonke umuntu abe umuntu onomthwalo wemfanelo futhi ojabulela ukunakekela abanye njengendlela yokukhulekela u-Allah.. Kodwa okubaluleke nakakhulu; umndeni wamaSulumane ungowothando nobubele, zokuziphatha okuhle nenhlonipho. Kungokuqinisekisa ukuthi umndeni wamaSulumane unjena singakwazi ukwenza izisekelo zomphakathi ziqine futhi ziqine ngesikhathi esifanayo sinakekela futhi sinomthwalo wemfanelo..

Isisekelo salo mphakathi omuhle wamaSulumane yileso esikhumbula u-Allah futhi wazi ukuthi ekukhumbuleni njalo u-Allah kuyomgcina ekude ne-haram. (kwenqatshelwe) izinto ezingazilimazi wena kuphela, kodwa nawo wonke umphakathi.

“O nina enikholwayo! Ingcebo yenu noma abantwana benu mayiniphazamise ekukhumbuleni uAllah. Futhi noma ubani owenza lokho, yibona abahluliwe.” [Quran, 63:9]

Uzakwethu WamaSulumane 2010

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